One thing we Seekers are really good at is commiserating with each other over rejections, bad reviews, and cutting contest critiques. As my pastor said in his sermon yesterday, it doesn’t seem to matter how many times we are praised and complimented. The stuff that sticks in our minds is the criticism. It lodges in our psyche and nibbles away at our self-confidence until all we’re able to focus on is our failure.
You’ve heard the old saying, “You can’t please everybody.” Some days it feels like you can’t please anybody! The naysayers pour out of the woodwork like a herd of termites. But if we’re going to survive and thrive in the writing business, we have to find creative ways to get past the negativity. We must learn to celebrate our successes, put our failings in perspective, and keep writing.
Here are a few websites to turn to when you need help slaying the dragons of criticism:
- Dealing with Criticism
- 10 Tools for Dealing with Criticism and Rejection
- It Hurts to be Criticized
- Dealing with Bad Reviews
- How to Deal with a Bad Book Review
- When Book Reviews Go Bad
- Dealing with Criticism, Critiques, and Critics
- Coping with Criticism
- Criticism Bites!
Your turn to share . . . if you dare!
PLEASE do NOT name names or reveal any other identifying information, but now’s your chance to air your dirty laundry--er, reviews, rejections, or critiques.
What are your favorite coping strategies?
What helps you keep the negativity in perspective so you can keep writing?