Perhaps you should sit down first.
I want you all to know that I am not a cool person.
I have never been cool. Today I opened up my Facebook account for the first time in two weeks and discovered I have new 85 virtual strangers who want to be my virtual friend. Add that to the 731 virtual strangers who already are my virtual friends.
I just want to ask...WHO ARE YOU PEOPLE?
Why do you want to be my friend? Seriously, peeps. Full disclosure... I am boring.
In a normal day (besides the folks at work or church, none of whom BTW are my Facebook friends) I encounter possibly three people, all on the way to the day job. The nice clerk at the grocery store who thinks my name is Regina (I don't have the heart to tell her that's not my name), Joe at 7-11 who I give my $.99 cents to for a refill of a diet Dr. Pepper with a dash of vanilla and on occasion the guy with the ponytail (Frank?) who handles my Seekerville mailings.
I go to work, I write books, I attend to a few other life needs. That's it.
I'm a writer. I don't have time for friends. And I mean that in the nicest possible way.
I recently started to rethink this whole, you want to be my FB friend, you want to follow me on Twitter (before I killed the bird), add me to your Google circle, Pinterest, yada yada phenomena.
Here's how I see it...
Sometime in early 2000 there was a meeting in a corporate office somewhere and it involved lots of delivery pizza and Mountain Dew. Clearly this was as important as the meeting that brainwashed us into believing and perpetuating the following:
1. Real women wear size 2
2. You can have it all.
3. You will look like Carmen Elektra if you eat Doritos
At the end of said meeting, (above, pay attention) it was decided that with the demise of MySpace people needed another way to be cool so that corporate giants could make money off our paranoia and nightmares of elementary school gym class.
Like a virtual dodgeball team picking scenario...we all want to be LIKED!
Thus the dawn of social media as we know it. (What Type of Social Media Personality ARE YOU??-Infographic)
Have you seen the movie The Social Network? Facebook was created by a geek with social phobia to play off OUR insecurities and we fed right into it!
My paranoia unfortunately is growing. Watch the video and then let the last words haunt you.
"I am a big fan of any social networking site. It allows me to interact with my fans without having to see, hear or smell them."
So why DO we believe Facebook will sell our books? Because someone in a publicity office of a publishing house told us so?
Check out the Infographic on the topic.
Has social media has gotten you a book contract, or has soared anyone you personally know onto the New York Times list? NYT Combined Print & E Book Fiction
Let's take a look at this year's list of Forbes Top Earning Authors
George R R Martin
What about their social media presence? Yes, it's there all right. (Thanks to a high priced publicist who pays someone to do the author's social media for them.)
But what came first, the chicken or the egg? The book or the author? I guarantee (except for TV journalist Bill O'Neil) you it was the book. (And on a random segue-when was the last time you got a REAL LIVE personal Tweet from them about weight loss? You got one from me!!)
I don't believe social media sells books.
Here are some articles that seem to suggest I might be right or at least on the right track. If you only have time to read one of these read Ewan Morrison's from the Uk Gaurdian!
- Does social media sell books? by Ellie Robins (Melville House)
- Why social media isn't the magic bullet for self-epublished authors -Ewan Morrison (The Guardian)
- Does Social Media Sell Books? (The Liars Club)
- Do You Absolutely Need Social Media to Sell Books? (Publishing Perspectives)
What I do believe is that social media connects and cultivates relationships. Which obviously I am in need of. I don't go to Facebook to sell my books, I go to visit. So thank you for for taking pity on my friendless, boring, introverted, ISTJ soul.
So what's the moral of this post?? Social media should be a seasoning that adds to your life, not the entire life.
If you're only there to hawk books, maybe you should rethink your marketing plan.
Random notice...I love this ad Toyota Facebook Commercial.
BTW, I'm cold turkey off Twitter. I'm working toward Facebook Detox.
"Facebook has turned into a national obsession that results in vast amounts of time lost and innately encourages narcissism."
If you're spending 4+ hours a day on social media consider that possibly that time would be better spent living, or ...writing...
Because the best way to sell that book is to write another, and another and another.
Yes, it's true, there are only 1440 minutes in a day.
As for you and ME?
We need to get our fannies in the chair and get writing!
Tina Radcliffe spends most of her time juggling her day job at a large national mail order pharmacy, writing inspirational romance and trying to fit into her crime fighting outfit. She lives in a cave in the foothills of Colorado.
I've given you at minimum, lots of links to check out. At max, your own decision to make. It isn't necessary to agree with me about anything. Most smart people don't.
Comment today. SHARE your opinion on taking the ME out of Social MEdia for some special opportunities:
1. If you aren't one of the 3,000 peeps who I have already mailed a FREE copy of my Carol Award finaling book by Harlequin Love Inspired, Oklahoma Reunion, let me know. Two copies are up for grabs. Digital or Traditional.
2. If you are attending ACFW, I'm buying! Let's chat, REAL TIME. Seriously. I'll buy the beverage and dessert of your choice and we can mumble greetings, avoid eye contact and/or check our phone messages then attempt awkward conversation. One winner.
3. Because there will always be a special place in my heart for lurkers. ( I personally lurk on 29 Yahoo groups.) I'm offering a $10.00 Amazon gift card to one lurker who posts today.
Winners announced in the Weekend Edition. (That gives you approximately 24 hours folks!)
*All information shared in this post is the solely the opinion of the paranoid, friendless author of this post and does not necessarily reflect the views of Seekerville.*