Monday, January 14, 2013

Just Do It



You may be surprised to discover that my Christmas tree taught me something. Yes, the tree is inanimate and other than being adorned with lovely ornaments that fill me with delight and nostalgia, it’s never been a teaching tool...until now.


Before I explain, let me give you some back story. Okay, that’s just wrong for a writer. Mary’s asking, “Where’s the explosion?” Well, this is not fiction, this is truth, the kind that creeps in on padded feet and requires some explanation.


I’ll start with my husband, a hard working, take-charge, get-er-done kind of guy who is unconcerned with details.


I’m, ah, well, different.   


I didn’t realize how different until we were taking the ornaments off our tree. He suggested we remove all the balls, put them on the couches and then box them. I nixed that idea as many of the balls are adorned with glitter. Glitter has a life all its own. Did you know you can never dispose of glitter? All you can do is to move its location. Usually that new location is my face. Have you ever tried to get glitter off your face? Enough said.


I suggested we take a box, find the right size balls of the same color that fit the holes, remove and box them. He muttered that would take longer but agreed. I’m happily traipsing around the tree in search of blue balls with silver tops, leaving the blue balls with gold tops for the next box when...


Can you see where this is going?


...I noticed my dh had lost his zeal for my method. I took this photo of his boxes. True, some balls had gotten broken over the years so my system isn't perfect. Still, this is the best he could do? Really?





I’ve been told I’m a perfectionist, but I always pooh-poohed the idea, knowing my desk is cluttered, my rubber stamping area is a mess, my spices are not alphabetized, not even in the same spot. Clearly I’m not a perfectionist.


What the tree taught me is I’m a tad...persnickety. At least about some things. Sadly, often things that don't matter. I wasn’t delighted with that insight but other instances came to mind that confirmed it, like my inability to relax in a room with a picture askew, my inability to set the table without spoons even when they aren't needed, my inability to write a rough draft without revising.


What to do?


It’s hard to teach an old dog new tricks. Not that I’m canine. LOL I'm hoping my answer for getting hung up on the little things will be my word for 2013.


“Do.”


“Do” requires action. Action means moving about, getting things done. I chose the word because I need exercise. I need to handle more chores. That go-getter husband of mine steps in and fills the vacuum but who wants to be a kept woman?


Stop waving your hands! You know you wouldn't.


I’ve discovered I talk a good game, but instead of talking about something, I just need to do it. That sounds simple, but we know it’s not. I've failed at resolutions more years than I care to count. What I love about “Do” is it’s not specific. "Do" can encompass all kinds of goals, be they goals for better health, goals for serving and witnessing, goals for writing and promoting. Why the list is endless.


Being too picky about trivial things impedes action, slows me down and messes with productivity. "Do" is the antidote. I don’t expect to change who I am. "Do" may take me longer than it would take you due to my fussy nature, but the more I focus on "do" even if I have to fold the towels just so, I'll still make headway. 

I not only need to do more physical activity, I need to write more, write quicker. "Do" eliminates procrastination. "Do" eliminates getting stuck searching for the perfect sentence, perfect word, even the perfect plot. "Do" means forging ahead. Seeing that word count pile up. Maybe not as fast as some, but more than the norm for me. 
With "Do" as my guiding word, I expect to accomplish more this year.
Speaking of accomplishments, I'm thrilled to have a new Love Inspired Historical out in April and want to share the cover and blurb. The Bride Wore Spurs is my first book set in the West and I'm excited about the story! Who doesn't love a cowboy?





The Cowgirl Takes a Husband!


 To keep the Texas ranch she loves, Hannah Parrish will wed a man she doesn’t. Cowpokes won’t take orders from a young, single female. But while her exasperating neighbor Matt Walker jokes about her being a mere debutante, Hannah is a rancher to the core. Just like Matt.


“Will you marry me?” It’s a question widowed Matt never intended to ask again. Now spirited Hannah is asking him for a marriage of convenience! Yet whether she’s birthing a calf or caring for a young orphan, the tomboy next door is becoming the partner Matt always hoped for. Now he must convince her the greatest strength comes in trusting your heart to another—and your future to God.…

In case you missed my Fort Worth thrill of sitting on a longhorn, I’m sharing a picture of that too. I’m proud I didn’t just think about climbing aboard, I actually did it.


“Do” is a big word.


For breakfast I brought perfect cinnamon rolls slathered with icing, fresh squeezed orange juice, crisp but un-charred bacon and eggs sunny side up without one broken yolk. Persnickety in the kitchen makes for great food. LOL


Leave a comment for a chance to win an IOU copy of The Bride Wore Spurs. Tell us your word or resolution for 2013. If anyone struggles with obsessing over the small stuff, please share so I don’t feel so alone and weird. I suspect Grammar Queen is a tad obsessive, don’t you? Hoping she stops by with her antidote. 


  

137 comments:

Helen Gray said...

Here's the coffee to go with your breakfast feast, Janet.

You said, "If anyone struggles with obsessing over the small stuff, please share so I don’t feel so alone and weird."

You nailed me, girl. I do way too much of that.

So I guess I need to partner your word "do" with my "prayer" word.

Helen

CatMom said...

LOVED your post, Janet! And don't worry--you are definitely not alone in obsessing over the small stuff. I think LOTS of us do that, in one area or another. *smile* My word this year is SERVICE--I want to SERVE the Lord in whatever areas He needs me to (including my writing!). ~ Congratulations on your upcoming LIH! I have LOVED all of your books, and no need to put me in the drawing because I DO plan to purchase your book when it's released. Hugs, Patti Jo

Jenny Blake said...

hi Janet. I would be with your husband with boxes although mine fit in there own boxes but om not ordered taking them of the tree.

my word is gratitude and i need to write a few more things to add to my jar like the fact i slept around 8 hours sat night. doesnt matter last night was back to not as good saturday night was wonderful.

on swaeting the small stuff I learnt last year it doesn't matter. Little things i was worried about were not worth it in the scheme of things. I was alive so what if the house wasn't tidy it would happen (well could happen), and other things that I found they weren't important getting better and taking care of me was. even know I try to look at the positive side and not sweat the small stuff, it bogs you down.

now if i get bogged down, bored or just need to get out i go for walks which i am about to do this not being able to do much cos of the wrist tends to make me restless and i need to go out to break the cycle.

Vince said...

Hi Janet:

Wow! You covered so many points!

Just in time, too! I’m in need of ‘quirks’ for my Plotting Bootcamp. Can I used some of yours? I have a very nice heroine. She’s a new minister and you have very good quirks that I would never think of:

“…like my inability to relax in a room with a picture askew, my inability to set the table without spoons even when they aren't needed.”

About Old Dogs:

“The good news is that there are enough old tricks that old dogs still need to learn to keep them busy for the rest of their lives.”

I’m speaking from experience and speaking from experience: be advised that much of procrastination involves doing things that are almost what you really should be doing but aren’t. Procrastination loves to hide inside a buzz of activity. (Experience, again.)

You wrote:

"Do" eliminates getting stuck searching for the perfect sentence, perfect word, even the perfect plot.” Hold on there partner: your signature is writing those perfect sentences. Please don’t trade crystal clear quality for production level quantity.

I can’t wait to read your new book. But I have to wonder: are those storm clouds over the hero and heroine’s head? I’m also a little worried about those spurs. (Even vicarious spurs are a little scary.) : )

Vince

P.S. I'd love a chance for a book IOU.

Gabrielle Meyer said...

Love the premise and title of your book! I'm a do-er. My husband still laughs about the first house we bought. It was a fixer-upper and by the end of that first day, I had ripped up the ugly green carpet in the kitchen! (Yes, green carpet in the kitchen!) I wish I was a bit more persnickety at times. :)

My word for 2013 is hope. Hope for so many things. God plans to give us a hope and a future - and I'm clinging to that promise!

Jan Drexler said...

Janet, you and your husband could be clones of my husband and I. But we've both accepted it.

When a room needs to be straightened quickly, my dear husband can do it in five minutes flat. (Great for when last minute company is dropping by!)

But then I'm the one who sorts through the piles he put 'somewhere' during his straightening whirlwind and puts thing where they belong.

It works - if he didn't make the piles, I'd never get around to sorting through them :)

By the way, my word for the year is Discipline. Before my forced retirement from homeschooling (the youngest graduated), I was so disciplined! Of course, I had the education of four children riding on keeping to my schedule and doing what needed to be done when it needed to be done.

But now I have a hard time keeping things on schedule. I hope to get back to my good habits this year.

I'm looking forward to reading your new book!

Cindy W. said...

I know what it is to find just the right box for each ornament. My mom and I have collected Hallmark ornament for years. My husband just loves to watch us as we take each precious ornament off and say goodbye to it for another year as it goes into it's very own box. :)

I love Fort Worth and the Stockyards. Unfortunately, every time we visit my brother in the Dallas area and we visit the Stockyards, it is quiet...no cattle drive no Longhorns, nothing...but shopping :)

Have a blessed week.

Smiles & Blessings,
Cindy W.

countrybear52[at]yahoo[dot]com

Janet Dean said...

Morning Helen! Thanks for the coffee. And for sharing you struggle with the same malady. I love your idea of combining prayer with do. I like to talk to God. To share an issue with Him and seek His guidance. When I know what I'm to do, then I must take those first steps. Like the Isrealites crossing the Jordan, my path through the water won't be opened up till I have the courage or determination to begin.

Janet

Janet Dean said...

Patti Jo, your sweet words have warmed my heart on this cold morning. You are the sweetest person and such an encouragement to others. Service is a fabulous guiding word for 2013. I need to do more of it. There's that word
Do again. Bless you.

Janet

Janet Dean said...

Hi Jenny! I'm smiling that you're like my husband. He's a great guy and gets a lot done.

I love your Gratitude Jar! Your health scare has helped you focus on what's important with a grateful heart. I have a gratitude journal. Writing in that every morning helps me focus on my blessings, not on all the trouble in this world.

Janet

Janet Dean said...

Oops, forgot to say, Jenny, that I'm impressed by your commonsense. Exercise is a wonderful way to ease whatever is bugging us. Great time to pray too.

Janet

Mary Curry said...

Good morning, Janet. I love this post.

I'm laughing at the idea of taking my tree down with my husband. We'd probably end up divorced. We barely get it up and remain speaking. :)

This year he said something about needing the box so he could take down the ornaments in the morning. That was enough to make me stay up and do it myself. I guess I'm persnickety about how they go away because I have special boxes for each ornament and I wanted it done right.

It's funny. I'm not like that about everything, but there are some little things. Like, I'll refold a towel to make sure the tags are on the inside and the edges line up. I don't even know why that matters to me. I certainly don't worry about it as much if I'm folding a shirt or slacks.

VINCE - this is BRILLIANT.
"... be advised that much of procrastination involves doing things that are almost what you really should be doing but aren’t. Procrastination loves to hide inside a buzz of activity."

Oh that is me in a nutshell.
They do say that identifying a problem is half the solution, right?


Janet, your new book sounds fabulous. I love your heroine already. Can't wait to read it.

Happy Monday, everyone. I'm stumbling my way into the day after an sleepless night. You know the kind where you're falling asleep before you go to bed, but then the minute you lie down it's like someone took a cattle prod to your brain and ZAP, you're wide awake.


UGH!

Janet Dean said...

Vince! I love that you're giving your heroine my quirks!! Nice to inspire in a blog post. LOL

You said: Procrastination loves to hide inside a buzz of activity. (Experience, again.)

Ah, there's where "Do" can lead me astray. Doing to cover up procrastination is not good! I've learned I work best when I get chores, calls, exercise, etc. out of the way in the morning, then I can settle down and concentrate on getting words on the page.

Thanks for the lovely praise on my prose! I meant during the first draft. Truly I can't do a fast draft to save me. I start sweating when I hear SpeedBo. But I can strive to write a bit faster and fix it later.

Snort! You are a perceptive man. Storm clouds are brewing. But the spurs are small and only hurt a little. :-)

Janet

Janet Dean said...

Good morning, Gabrielle! Smart woman to get that green carpet up and out! Our first apartment had linoleum kitchen floor with the pattern worn off in spots. Not pretty!

Love your word Hope! God is good and keeps His promises. No better place to cling.

Janet

Janet Dean said...

Jan, you and your husband make a great team! Actually I'm not sure we're clones. Remember I said that I wasn't a perfectionist? Well, I don't like clutter, but I'm good at stuffing things in a drawer. Out of sight out of mind...until I need it. Sigh. Mercy, I'm starting to not like myself.

Discipline is a great word to guide your year but tough. The more time we have the harder it is to remain disciplined.

Janet

Janet Dean said...

Hi Cindy W! I love Hallmark ornaments! We have a shopping bag of boxes that we kept, but don't put the ornaments in them. No, it was my dh's idea to wrap them in tissue, a time saver. LOL He makes me think of the father in Cheaper by the Dozen! Anyone remember that book?

I'm sorry you haven't seen the Longhorns in Fort Worth! They parade them twice a day, or so I thought. Maybe next time.

Janet

Janet Dean said...

Mary Curry, you are my kind of woman! I have the same issue with towels. Tag inside, folded just so. Is there a twelve step program for this???

I'm sorry about your sleepless night. I've been there. Persnickety minds are active. LOL

Janet

Jackie said...

Morning Janet,

I have sons and now granddaughters. We never had glitter when they were growing up. We had balls. Any kind and size of ball you can imagine. We had art supplies, too, but not glitter.
Now I have a 3 year old granddaughter (& a 1 month old). Somehow we now have glitter appearing frequently. Somehow her very presence brings glitter.
My college son was home for Christmas and couldn't get over finding little sparks of glitter everywhere. LOL!

Instead of a word, I chose a phrase for 2013. "Thy will be done."

You've inspired me to get out and walk today. I've thought about it, but lately it's been too cold or rainy. So despite the cold today, I'm going to do it. Thanks.

I love the sound of your story. Couples partnering in life is inspirational. Please toss my name in the hat.

I enjoyed your post today. Thanks for sharing and pushing us.

Jackie L.

Janet Dean said...

Hi Jackie! Yep, glitter and girly goes hand in hand. Know you're enjoying that little sweetheart in pink! We have one glittery granddaughter and three grandsons. These days they hold lots of screens but also basketballs, volleyballs and tennis rackets. The fun part is our grandkids know how to help with our electronics and phones. Such a blessing!


Your guiding words, Thy will be done, reveals your trusting heart. Or a desire for one. I know that struggle.

Have a good walk. If it's slick, I walk inside with a CD. Or I could use the treadmill and watch HGTV.

Janet

Rose said...

Good Morning, Janet!

Hmmm...I may be a bit persnickety too!

My word for this year is diligent. It applies with both my writing career and hobby projects that need to get finished!

Piper Huguley said...

Hi Janet!

Great post! My word is persist. I picked it because there are times when I might just let things go, instead of following up on them. Thank you for the opportunity to remember my word!

Piper

Sandra Ardoin said...

Persnickety. I love that word, Janet, and I definitely fit that description as you outlined it. Actually, my hubby and I both have our persnickety tendancies. Enjoyed the post!

Jeanne T said...

Janet, I so enjoyed your post. And yes, I can admit that I am persnickety about some things. Taking down our Christmas tree is a family affair. My kids usually help wrap the unbreakable ornaments, and I (sometimes my honey) pack up the breakables. Yes, they live in different bins.

I'm also picky about certain things in caring for our home. And how much screen time my kids get (almost none right now) and, well there are other things too.

My word for the year is Perspective. God's already teaching me lessons about this, and giving me opportunities to practice what I'm learning.

DebH said...

great post Janet. i've been a bit persnickity myself. my husband and i have a system for the christmas tree: he puts it up and lights it - i take care of the oranaments and natvity scenes (we've three - one for under the tree, one for the dining room, one for living room).

this year, i got a lesson in patience and learning to let go because our three year old desperately wanted to help decorate for Christmas. things took about three times as long, but he pretty much left the tree alone after it was up and decorated.

same thing with taking the tree down. i had to have patience as he grabbed everything off the tree as fast as he could. the good part though, is we've some special ornaments and he was particular about getting those in their special "homes" just so. i guess i'm training him young to know everything has it's special spot *heh*.

my one word is DISCIPLINE which means I must get to that DO part (which i haven't - yet... but WILL!)

Julie Lessman said...

LOL, Janet, LOVE your word ... and your blog ... the pic of Dale's ornaments??? ADORABLE!!! ;)

When I was working outside the home, I had a sign hanging in my cubicle that said:

SOMETIMES DONE IS BETTER THAN GOOD.

That always made me laugh because like you, Janet, I'm a bit persnickety (anal might be a better word), so "done" was never good enough for me. But I find that the older I get, the better it is, so apparently age has its advantages ... it stifles anality. :)

Pass a cinnamon roll, Janet, and cannot WAIT for the book!!

Hugs,
Julie

Carol Moncado said...

Good morning, Janet!!!

My word is also discipline.

And to that end I'm thinking a nap is in order because I won't get anything done today if I'm this tired. :p

I need some "do" to go along with it though. I'm gonna have to add that in there. My house could use some "do".

I'm persnickity about certain things too. Hubs is out of his favorite toothpaste and is using mine. And it's driving me nuts.

Plus you should only ever eat MnMs in even numbers. And save the green ones for last.

I would LOVE to win a copy of that book, my friend!

I did read Swept Away last night. If all y'all don't have it on your preorder list, you should. It rocks. It just may be Mary's best yet.

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Wendy Newcomb said...

I guess I'm a boring person, lol. I don't do the word of the year, resolutions and usually don't sweat about the small stuff. I think I agree, as would my husbands and my kids, that I'm just a plain 'old', lol, homebody that keeps to myself pretty much.

I love and care deeply for my family and friends, pray for them daily at am there when they need me, that is if they let me know that they need something.

wfnren(at)aol(dot)com

Jeanne T said...

I didn't know things were being posted on the WE about Deb Marvin winning the Rattler, so I'm saying WOO-HOO!!! A big congratulations to you, Deb!!

Jamie Adams said...

Janet, you've found it! I needed a word that is the opposite of procrastination, but couldn't come up with just the right one. Do... duh that's it in a nutshell.

My husband is a perfectionist and when you described yourself it could have been him. Funny how opposites attract. I don't have a fussy nature, mine is more a lazy nature.

(It's not completely my fault.. when I was growing up in California I had bad asthma attacks and the dr's told my mom that when any house cleaning was being done I should be outside. So when my mom and sisters cleaned I had to go outside and sunbath.Now that I'm an adult and have outgrown my asthma I really miss sunbathing.)

I let the little stuff slide on by... and some of the big stuff. But DO works great for me as well.

Janet Dean said...

Good morning, Rose. Diligent is an excellent choice! Honestly I like every One Word I've heard and could benefit from all of them. But I must focus on mine. I find "Do" makes me work harder so there's a bit of diligent in it.

What are your hobbies, Rose?

Janet

Janet Dean said...

Hi Piper! Thanks! Persist is another great word. Keep on keeping on. Never give up. Finish. Thanks for the reminder of what it takes to type The End!

Janet

Missy Tippens said...

Janet, I'm totally cracking up!! That photo of the Christmas balls looks perfectly fine to me! They don't have to be the same color to go in a box together. They just have to fit! :)

You would have an absolute conniption taking down a tree with me! LOL

I loved your post. Such a great lesson. One that I, too, need to take to heart. I have my own persnickety ways that I need to overcome.

Cara Lynn James said...

Janet, thanks for your perfect cinnamon rolls. They're delicious but you can keep the calories.

I'm definitely a perfectionist about some things like finding the right word in a sentence. Love the Thesaurus! Other things not so much.

My daughter and her boyfriend took the ornaments off the tree this year and packed them away without wrapping them or putting them in boxes! Can't wait to find all the pieces of glass next year. I think I'll insist they unpack the ornaments!!!

Missy Tippens said...

Gabrielle, that's so funny about green carpet in the kitchen! I don't blame you for ripping that up asap! :)

I love the word Hope.

Missy Tippens said...

Vince, that's such a great observation about procrastination involving doing things that are almost what you need to be doing. I'm learning that about myself but hadn't been able to put it in words.

Janet Dean said...

Hi there, Sandra! Two fussy people in the house must produce loads of harmony. And perfectly folded towels. :-)

Persnickedy has an historical sound. Merriam Webster states persnickety came into usage in 1905. No wonder I love the word.

Janet

Missy Tippens said...

Mary Curry, I had to laugh at what you said about you and your husband. The other day when we FINALLY got to our tree, my husband was going to do his part of the job. But I couldn't take it! I had to jump in.

Of course, the kids had a good time making fun of me. The quickest way to get mom moving is to do something the wrong way! :)

Missy Tippens said...

DebH, we solved that problem by only decorating the top part of the tree during those years! :)

Then later we got a smaller tree that the kids could decorate with unbreakable balls that were hung with loops of yarn. I remember being so happy when we could decorate a whole tree again! :)

Janet Dean said...

Hi Jeanne! After reading your comment, I can see Persnickety on one end of the teeter totter and Productivity on the other with perspective the mid point, keeping those two in balance. Wow, you're a genius!

Janet

Missy Tippens said...

Jeanne T, I missed that as well! Congrats to Debra Marvin on the Rattler!

Janet Dean said...

Hi DebH! A three-year-old can be a master teacher for patience. I can see you are a terrific mom and a great teacher.

Discipline makes "Do" happen. And not just any "Dos" either. The most important "Dos."

Janet

Janet Dean said...

Good morning, Julie! I hear you with anal. LOL I love your motto: Sometimes done is more important than good. That's what my "Do" is all about. Get it done, dummy. I'm talking to me. LOL

I'm really enjoying Steven's story, Julie. I love the O'Connnor family and can't wait to see how you bring Steven and Annie/Susannah together. A Love Surrendered seems to center on keeping secrets. I love secrets and the trouble they cause.

Janet

Ruth Logan Herne said...

How long have you been married?????

Oh my stars, I'm just picturing poor Dale's face....

The set of his shoulders....

But I'm very impressed that he helps at all and I can guarantee you that Dave has never taken down a Christmas ornament in his adult life, and that if he does, it will be because I DIED BETWEEN DECEMBER 1 AND JANUARY 6TH!!!

I love your word for 2013.... "Do". So much promise.

Hey, I brought cake balls for youse to try. They are a treat beyond compare and a wonderful thing to make....

Try them.

Just big enough to make you know you had a delightful treat, but not too much to spoil your January diet.

You. Will. Love. These.

Janet Dean said...

Good morning, Carol M!! Snorting at how you eat M&Ms. Far better than just stuffing them into our mouths.

Discipline and Do go hand in hand. I picked Do because sitting so much is messing with me. But that doesn't mean that everything that needs doing is important. Prioritze is another great word.

Can't wait to read Swept Away!

Janet

Janet Dean said...

Hi Wendy, praying for and supporting others is important. We all need that kind of caring. Bless you!

Janet

Ruth Logan Herne said...

Janet, I understand the glitter thing... we use glitter often here. I can never outlaw or limit the use of glitter or sprinkles, especially on birthdays and/or holidays.

It navigates on its own, so when I have it on my face in public, I pretend it's fairy dust.

I'm old.

People indulge me.

Janet Dean said...

Hey, Jamie! Will be fun to share "Do" with you! So glad you outgrew your asthma. I got it in more recent years. Probably didn't dust enough. ;-)

I had an appointment this morning and in the five minutes I had before I left, I emptied the dishwasher. A little thing but little things pile up and it didn't keep me from working. Before "Do" I would've been checking email. LOL

Janet

Ruth Logan Herne said...

Carol Moncado, any book with a heroine named RUTHY!!!! should jump, nay SAIL to the top of the TBR pile.

It just seems right, doesn't it???

Janet Dean said...

Hi Missy! I hoped readers got the humor. No matter how my dh did the job, I'm grateful he helps me take down the decorations.

What are you persnickety about? Spill the beans. LOL

Janet

Janet Dean said...

Hi Cara! Whoa, you may have to intervene. Those ornaments are heading for trouble. I'm seeing dollar signs.

Janet

Janet Dean said...

Missy! LOL, your kids are playing you like a violin. Love it!

Janet

Janet Dean said...

Ruthy, your comment: I can guarantee you that Dave has never taken down a Christmas ornament in his adult life, and that if he does, it will be because I DIED BETWEEN DECEMBER 1 AND JANUARY 6TH!!! made me snicker!! Oh, I do know I'm blessed to have a man who loves all things Christmas and was born with Do tattooed on his brain.

I've had cake balls and love them!! Just little bites of delight. Now I'm craving sugar, chocolate...

Janet

Janet Dean said...

Ruthy, many blushes have sparkly glitter in them. So those of us with glitter on our faces are in style. Isn't that terrific?

Janet

Misty Russon said...

I'm still laughing, picturing your husband as you shoot him with silent darts of irritation... I am the same way. It takes me three times as long to do anything than anyone else in my house. (But it always looks and smells better when I do it. (:)
I have a certain way I fold towels and everyone in my house hates it, but that's how my mom taught me, so that's how it is. It isn't such a hard thing to tri-fold a towel, now is it? LOL, you would think I was asking them to chop off their heads... anyway...I like your word. It doesn't pin you down to any specifics, which puts the pressure on if you fail. My resolution this year was to have no resolution because I always fail at whatever silly thing I have in mind. Thanks for making my breathing a little easier. I enjoyed your post.

Sandra Leesmith said...

Hi Janet, Love the picture of the ornaments. You are blessed that your dh helped you. Like Ruthy's dh, mine has never put up or down an ornament. He would be happy with no tree or fuss. Bah humbug.

But love the word DO. Good word to keep in mind.

Julie I about died when I read "old age stifles anality". Is that what it is? I used to be so anal but it just doesn't seem important anymore. That's great for the stress level, but disaster for the DOING. lol

Donna said...

I finished Courting the Doctor's Daughter yesterday. I really enjoyed it so I am looking forward to your new one!

Congrats Deb M!

Sandra Leesmith said...

Mary Curry I'm with you on Vince's quote. I think I do procrastinate with busyness. Never realized that is what my busyness was for. Oh how funny.

When I get up in the morning and say "Good Morning Lord." He always answers and says "Good Morning Martha." But I'm getting better. And I think its because of Julie's comment.

Oh this morning is too convicting. I"m going to go get busy.

Sandra Leesmith said...

Didn't get to WE as Internet problem with my modem. Still have problem so am using hubby's computer.

But congrats Debra. What wonderful news.

Janet Dean said...

Hi Misty! Glad you're breathing easier. :-) I picked "Do" because I need to exercise and move around more, yet still do the writing. Exercising really doesn't take all that long, but I'd put it off and then never get to it.

I tri fold towels too. I didn't learn this from my mom, though she taught me plenty. Tri-folded towels fit my linen closet shelves better so that's just sensible. See how I rationalize my persnickety side. :-)

Janet

Janet Dean said...

Hi Donna! Makes me feel good to hear you enjoyed Courting the Doctor's Daughter. Thanks! Hope you'll enjoy The Bride Wore Spurs, my Texas set story. First time out of the Mid-west.

Janet

Janet Dean said...

Hi Sandra, I am blessed with a dh that gets involved. Of course that means we often do things his way. :-) But he's fast moving doer like our Ruthy.

I haven't yet gotten old enough to have my anal stiffled. LOL Does that make me younger than you? Don't answer that!

Janet

Janet Dean said...

Sandra, love how God greets you as Martha! You're the hardworking woman who makes sure needs are met! Mary sat at Jesus' feet. The right place to be, but then I suspect it wasn't so much that Martha met needs as she piped twice baked potatoes with Jesus' initials. Not pointing fingers at anyone. LOL

Janet

Mary Connealy said...

I think for Janet, Myra and me, climbing on that longhorn was the beginning to a new chapter in our lives.
Also, some hip and knee problems

Mary Connealy said...

Just gonna say here that in typical Mary the Airhead fashion, I now see that in January we were supposed to talk about our ONE WORD and probably in February we're supposed to talk about Speedbo.

So maybe, in February, since I already did Speedbo maybe I should do ONE WORD (and my one word should probably be DUH!!!)

Julie Hilton Steele said...

Commitment is my word for this year.

I would have commented sooner but I was registering for RWA. I am having to stick closer to home this summer so that is the conference I went with.

But according to my credit card, I am definitely committed.

Committing to spreading my wings, writing daily and being healthy in my life.

Thanks for for a great post. Looking forward to your next book.

Peace, Julie

Mary Connealy said...

I'll also add that, I threw all my Christmas ornaments into one of those white grocery store bags.
Boxes? They come in boxes? And sure they're fragile but c'mon, no one's gonna be playing catch with them...I hope.

Oh, btw, the only real ORNAMENTS I have are (a bag bull) of shiny multi-colored balls that I dump into the magazine basket in the living room. There's also a string of glittery green foil looking holly with berries in there.
It's my own decorating system and it works well, dumping them like that.

I should maybe write a book on Christmas decorating so you will all be blessed with my approach.

It's a three page book...if I use a LOT of pictures.

Mary Connealy said...

Vince, I don't know how Janet feels about it but we ALL use her for our source for quirks.

It's like going to the well.

JK (Just Kidding)--that's my newly learned Twitter abbreviation. JK

Myra Johnson said...

Oh, I LOVE remembering our wonderful "ride" on the longhorn! Wasn't he special???

I also love your One Word, Janet. DO is so simple and yet so elegant. It's been fun this month hearing about everyone's words for 2013. Each one inspires me in some way, and I think, "Oops, maybe THAT should have been MY word!"

But I'm still sticking with COMPLETE. Like, I am COMPLETELY worn out after last weekend and my first official duties as president of our area ACFW chapter. (We had a great turnout, Julie H.S.! Wish you could have been there!)

Mary Connealy said...

Janet, Myra and I were all there with our husbands.
So where are the pictures of our HUSBANDS on the longhorn.

I know where My Cowboy's picture is. I told him he should get on and let me take a picture of him and he said words to the effect of, "Instead, why don't I just shoot myself? It's much faster and less painful than dying of embarrassment."

Still, he encouraged me to get on. Doesn't that seem wrong to you???

Vince said...

Hi Janet:

LOL this morning!

Until I read all these posts I thought that Christmas ornament photo was what you did! It looks perfect to me. : )

Do you know how our family put away Christmas ornaments? We wrapped them in tissue paper and carefully placed them into big brown cartons. We didn’t care what the boxes looked like from the outside. With four kids we just didn’t want them to get broken.

When we decorated the tree the next year, diving into the ornament box would be like opening presents early!

“Oh, look what I got,” my brother would say as he removed the tissue from a special ornament.

My mother would say, “Be careful with that one, your grandmother gave me that the first Christmas we were married.” Every ornament had a story.

Just putting the ornaments in boxes where you can tell what’s in them from the outside? What fun is that? That’s like getting new ornaments from the store each year. I always thought ornaments were best when they were one of a kind, keepsakes, to be cherished and not regimented like matching peas in a pod.

I don’t know but I have tears in my eyes thinking about your poor husband. That guy’s a saint.

Vince

P.S. “DO” is a great word but even Nike knows that the “IT” is essential. Do it! DO is just fine if you remember the “IT” is understood. Or, like Capt. Jack, maybe you can have a two-word “One Word”. We can learn from them pirates. : )


P.P.S. MARY, I wrote this post before I read your family ornament policy. : )

Jamie Adams said...

Janet, sorry to hear about your asthma. It's no fun. Back in the 60's the cure was to go outside with a good book while someone else cleans. You never know it might still work ;)

Virginia Carmichael Munoz said...

OH, THAT COVER!!!

*sigh*

Actually, living in cowboy country and growing up surrounded by men who were insulted when you called their combine, a 'tractor', I don't really gravitate to cowboys.

But this cover just makes my heart go pitter-pat!

And 'do' is a great word.

Mary Connealy said...

All that tissue paper wrapping sounds kind of obsessive to me, Vince.

The story telling is so so sweet.
Me, I kinda waited until no kid was watching and threw ornaments away.

Yeah, I'm a sentimental fool

Mary Connealy said...

I'm really JAZZED to have Janet join the COWBOY WORLD. YAY!!!!!!!!!

I can't wait to read it!!!!!!

Amy Campbell said...

Thank you, Janet for this post. Love it! I am one that obsesses over the small stuff, as well. My resolution this year is spend as much with my kids as possible and stay away from those three little words in a minute.
They are growing up way too fast.
Amy C
VA

Janet Dean said...

Mary! LOL! I'm going to Physical Therapy right now. Hadn't thought to blame the longhorn for the bursitis in my hip. This is not the kind of chapter I like to write.

Janet

Janet Dean said...

Yeah, Mary, thanks! Talking about Speedbo in January had me sweating bullets. Maybe dodging a couple. I'm not nearly as entertaining as your gunslinging, cowpoking heroines.

Janet

Tina Radcliffe said...

Janet, I read this when it went up last night and I laughed. It's so true of so many of us. You are not alone. Perhaps we can get a discount on group therapy.

Janet Dean said...

Good afternoon, Peaceful Julie! Yay, we will see each other at RWA in Atlanta this year! So fun! Thanks for the reminder. I need to register and enter the Carol. Both are on my "Do" list.

Commitment is such a powerful word! Need more of that in this world. What do you mean by spreading your wings?

Janet

Janet Dean said...

Mary, Martha Stewart should be calling for more info on your decorating system. Any day now.

Janet, don't hold your breath Dean

Janet Dean said...

Mary, I suspect Vince has a list of Seeker quirks that he goes to for inspiration. Your terror of mice surely heads the list.

Just so you know, my initials are JK. Hmm... Now I wonder if you knew that all along.

JK Dean

Janet Dean said...

Yay, Myra! You said my word DO was simple and elegant!!! That's almost as exciting as heading the Best Dressed list. Or hitting the Bestseller list in USA Today.

Well, almost.

I commend you for leading your local ACFW chapter! That's a lot of work.

Janet

Janet Dean said...

Mary, I suspect your dh feels that sitting on a longhorn for a photo op is about as manly as getting on one of those horses at WalMart that you put a quarter in. I'm so glad we gals don't have to be macho!

Janet

Janet Dean said...

Vince, the sweet touch of nostalgia in your unwrapping ornament story touched my heart, but then you said: I don’t know but I have tears in my eyes thinking about your poor husband. That guy’s a saint.

As for adding "It" to "Do" I will not. I'm in a snit.

Yes, my dh is a good man. A great guy. A hard worker, but I'm here to divert him from his driven nature, that Type A personality that produces heart attacks and strokes. You might say, to save his life.

So, are you ashamed of those tears?

Janet

Janet Dean said...

Jamie, I like your course of treatment, Doc. A good book. Fresh air. You might want to add a sandy beach to your prescription. ;-)

Janet

Janet Dean said...

Virginia, a cover that makes a heart pitter-patter is a cover that should fly off the store shelves. Hope so. :-) The hero is a great guy, a saint, kind of like my dh only Matt has guilt running through his veins, poor guy.

Janet

Janet Dean said...

Mary, I could share some of my sentimentality with you. I've got enough for two, maybe three people.

Janet

Janet Dean said...

Mary, I'm excited to have a cowboy story releasing, too! A lovely change of pace for me, though in some ways a ranch is much like a small town.

I give you total credit for the calf birthing scene.

Janet

Janet Dean said...

Hi Amy C! You're a wise woman. "In a minute" seldom means that, does it? I can't believe how fast our kids grew up! Now our grandkids are getting there. I want to haul back on the reins and say, "Whoa!"

Janet

Janet Dean said...

Tina, I love the idea of group therapy! Maybe we can shove our characters off Jeanne Campbell's couch and get some help. LOL Did youi know she's my cousin? I should be able to get a group rate.

I wonder sometimes if writers have a few more quirks than the norm. I kind of like that idea.

Janet

Jenny Blake said...

I hear you one glitter. at the church they used some of those tiny glitter stars 2 years ago and we are still finding them in the carpet. I tend to be the one who does the floor in the hall after funerals etc and I also do church cleaning 3 or 4 out of 5 weeks and one section I vacuum everytime and still cant get it all up. One lady is bringing her dyson for me to use this week.

Janet Dean said...

Thanks, Jenny, for supporting my point about glitter. The fun of it gets lost in the cleanup. I heard Dyson was a great sweeper. Hope it helps!

Janet

Susan Anne Mason said...

Hi Janet,

Love the premise and the cover of your new book! Can't wait to read it!

Can't talk about tidy vs. slobs. It will get my blood pressure up too high. Cause I'm a former neat freak married to a major slob and my children inherited the slob-gene! How unfair is that! So needless to say, I've had to lower my standards WAY down. Or become the kind of nag that I can't stand.

Oh well, more time for writing!

Cheers,
Sue
sbmason at sympatico dot ca

Jenny Blake said...

Oh the dyson is great. I use it at one place I clean and the house here had one I use and it is so good. The church one is hopeless at the best of times.

DebH said...

hmmm...
after reading the glitter comments, i'm happy i've got a little boy - otherwise i think our dog would be constantly covered in glitter. that, and i have a hard enough time keeping the house in a minimal state of cleanliness.

Mary Cline said...

Who doesn't love a Cowboy? Not anyone I would even like to know. The cowboys around here are wearing wool hats, coveralls and pack boots but they are real cowboys. I like the cover of your book and I know what is inside will be good, like those cowboys.
Ahh there is a new calf in the cornstalks in front of our house. Burrr! But he is cute and seems to doing okay.

Mary Cline said...

Oh, glitter is not dirt. I love glitter and if it doesn't all come up the first time that's okay.

Janet Dean said...

Hi Sue! I hear you about the nagging. You may think no one inherited your neat gene, but don't despair. When our girls were teenagers, I required them to clean their rooms before they went out on Saturday night. That worked like magic once they learned I meant what I said. Having a home of our home made all the difference for our girls and for me. I'm ashamed to say I used to be a teenage slob.

Janet

Janet Dean said...

Jenny, hoping the church will get a better sweeper one of these days! Sounds like you're back to work. How's that wrist doing?

Janet

Janet Dean said...

DebH, I'm guessing little boys have their own unique ways to make a mess.

Janet

Jenny Blake said...

When I said i do the cleaning haven't done as much recently.
The wrist is improving. I have taken the splint of and it isn't to bad but I have to be careful and if its aching I put the splint back on for awhile.
I am going to work today (about 2 hours depending how I feel) I will be doing cleaning.
I know there is some strengthening to happen but I finally feel it is on the mend and typing two hands is wonderful.

Natalie Monk said...

When I hear persnickety, I either think of Lemony Snicket or Sargento cheese, lol. I am so fond of that word, but not that it makes me want to have every tiny thing in place before I write--housework, other work, researching the craft--when I need to just "DO."

The heroine I'm plotting right now is very persnickety. Okay, she's a downright control freak, but I have a feeling she's going to be fun to write. She and I have more in common than I like to admit. :)

Timely post, Janet! Thank you!

Janet Dean said...

Jenny, good that you're taking it slow and using the brace when you need it. Can imagine how ready you were to get back to a two-handed life!

Janet

Janet Dean said...

Hi Natalie! I'm smiling that you wonder if your persnickety or even controling heroine could be more like you than you'd like to admit. We writers have to put some of ourselves into our characters. If not our quirks, our values. I try to make each of my heroines courageous and strong, the kind of woman I'd like to be, while stilling giving them faults. A fine line to walk. Have fun with the story!

Janet

Janet Dean said...

Mary C, the cowboys you describe are dressed for the cold. Brr. We may romanticize the life of a cowboy, but that's part of the fun!

Congrats on the new calf. What breed is he?

Janet

Janet Dean said...

Mary C, I like glitter, in its place. I'm glad others like you can enjoy the sparkle and are in no rush to get rid of it. Not that you could. LOL

Janet

Mary Cline said...

The cows are not ours, the corn stalks are not even ours.the cows are Angus.
We are enjoying getting to live out here and watch them.

Mary Curry said...

When you say glitter, all I can think of is the poor janitorial staff that gets stuck cleaning our classrooms in December. Glitter dominates and it's everywhere!

But it's fun. :)

Annie Rains said...

My word is LOVE this year. Funny how verses and the subject of love keep popping up everywhere since I choose that word as my "one word." It'll probably pop up more the closer we get to Valentines :)

Thank you a wonderful Monday post!

Janet Dean said...

Hi Mary C, Sorry I had you on a farm when you're living nearby. You've got the scenery without the trudgery. :-)

Angus are cute. All calves are cute. Better not to think about that.

Janet

Janet Dean said...

Mary, I should've said Mary Cline, not Mary C. Mary Curry is up next. We dare not get our Marys mixed up in Seekerville!

Janet

Janet Dean said...

Mary Curry, Maybe you can get Carol M to make some cookies for your janitorial staff. They're sure to please!

Janet

Janet Dean said...

Good evening, Annie! Thank you for stopping in and sharing your One Word. Love is perfect, a wonderful goal! Valentine's Day will give ample opportunities to express it.

Janet

Debby Giusti said...

Janet, I'm stopping by late...sorry.

Love your blog on "DO!" Such a great word and blog post.

Love the pic of you on the bull too. Ride'm cowboy!

Congrats on the April release that looks delightful! Can't wait to read it.

Hugs!

Pam Hillman said...

Janet, I am amazed that you have boxes for your ornaments. I gave up trying to force them back into those little plastic containers, and now everything goes quite happily into one BIG box together.

As a matter of fact, I didn't even get any of it out this year. Instead, I decorated my tree with burlap swag and ivory gossamer bows left over from my son's wedding. That was it: burlap and bows.

I thought it was the prettiest tree I'd ever had.

And...psst, it was QUICK to take down. :)

Debra E. Marvin said...

Dragging my waggin over to check in. I am not persnickety. Am I in the minority or are some of us unwilling to fess up in public.

Persnickety is desirable in self-editing. Isn't it obvious you take time to choose just the right words for just the right time and place? Love the new cover!

Thanks Missy for the shout out. the Rattler had a nice showing for Seeker groupies!

Janet Dean said...

Hi Debby! Thanks for stopping in. Know you're one busy writer.

Janet

Janet Dean said...

Hi Pam! I will have to tell my dh that others just wrap them, or not, and stick them in a big box.

Fun that your Christmas tree decorations were mementos of your son's wedding. What a great idea!!!! Made a beautiful tree, too!

Janet

Janet Dean said...

Hi Debra! Mega congrats on the Rattler final!!!

You're far better off if you're not persnickety. Except as you say with edits. :-)

Glad you love the cover! I can't wait to get my hands on it.

Janet

Walt Mussell said...

Janet, love your books. Can't wait for the next one!

My word for 2013 remains FINISH. I plan on finishing one WIP (at least a rough draft) by the end od February and then kicking off Speedbo with another WIP that's in process and needs to be finished. :-)

Janet Dean said...

Hi Walt! Thanks for your lovely words about my books.

Finish is such a forceful word. No possibility for confusion with Finish to guide you. Proud of you for those goals. Still, Speedbo spooks me.

Janet

Michelle F. said...

I don't have any of the Love-Inspired Historicals, just the regular Love Inspired books and suspense ones. Some I picked up at the library book sale.

I liked the picture of you on the steer. Moo!

May the K9 Spy (and KC Frantzen) said...

Miss Janet,

Of COURSE you're not K9... BOL!! My word for this year is terrific, which you ARE!

<3 from May

KC here - Hi Janet /waving/
OH how I'm with you on this. I'm not a tree but I've turned a new leaf and am FORCING myself to not edit as I write. And * drum roll *
I'm DO-ing it! And it's amazing how much progress I'm making.

There's going to be a lot of editing needed anyway, but at least there are words on screen. And that makes me happy!

Thanks for this terrific post! Glad you're getting good mileage from that photo. ha! Oh wait - that's May's word. Mine is transition. And "DO" is one way to apply that! :)

May the K9 Spy (and KC Frantzen) said...

(If our comment posted twice - sorry! It didn't appear to have posted at all.)

Mary Preston said...

DO is such a great choice for your word.

I'd love to read THE BRIDE WORE SPURS thank you.

Abigail Richmond said...

This year I would like to be a better witness for God!

Thanks for the Awesome Giveaway!

richmond.abigail@gmail.com

Marianne Barkman said...

Janet and Jenny...don't you know worrying helps? The things i worry about never happen!
Got here late, but i get to read all the comments at once that way! Yes i find myself procrastinating...reading rather than writing the reviews, until i have a bunch to do, and off i go. Thanks Janet, for the chance to win your The Bride Wore Spurs. i also sent you a message on Facebook

5cbea7be-48c5-11e2-a346-000bcdca4d7a said...

You are not allow. I am the same way with things. Some things have to just be such and such a way. I'm also a stickler for time. I have to be early I don't like to be late.

I would love to be entered in the drawing for an IOU book. It sounds really good.

MinDaf@aol.com

Janet Dean said...

Hi Michelle! Along with the possibility of winning a copy, another way to get a peek at Love Inspired Historical books is to go to Amazon or the author's Website and read the first chapter.

Janet

Janet Dean said...

Hi KC and May! Love the BOL, May!

KC, congrats on being able to write without editing. I can't seem to do it.

Janet

Janet Dean said...

Thanks for stopping by and for your interest in The Bride Wore Spurs, Mary P!

Janet

Janet Dean said...

Hi Abigail, I would like to be a better witness for God, too. Now to DO it.

Janet

Janet Dean said...

Hi Marianne! Your comment about worrying made me chuckle.

I'll check Facebook! Another thing I need to do more often. There's that word DO.

Janet

Janet Dean said...

Hi MinDaf, being a stickler about being on time is a persnickety people appreciate.

Thanks for your interest in The Bride Wore Spurs!

Janet

Sarah said...

I would love to win,Enter me!!!
Thanks for the giveaway and God Bless!!!
Sarah Richmond
sarahrichmond.12@gmail.com

Janet Dean said...

Hi Sarah! You're entered! Thanks for your interest in The Bride Wore Spurs.

Janet