Wednesday, May 8, 2013


My oldest is leaving for college.

I have to let the words sink in, because as I look at him, I still remember him as a ‘Terrible Two’, as the kid too fast to be caught when he played flag football in grade school, as the young man who could always make me laugh. Thankfully for this mama’s heart, he isn’t going far. But it will be far enough, and his spot at the dinner table will be empty most nights from now on. I am not certain, however, that I am ready for the change. Are any of us?

A few weeks ago, a friend called to tell me that her publisher, after five books, was dropping her from their print line. She is one of my mentors, a woman whose advice I have come to rely upon, someone whose success I thought unassailable. I was just as shocked as she was to hear the news. She was offered the opportunity to publish her next book as an e-book, but we both wondered if she was ready for the change. Are any of us?

When it took me ten years of hard work (and a lot of rejections) before I received my first contract, I learned the lesson that writing is a difficult, and sometimes unforgiving, vocation. And though I could hardly turn off the voices in my head and lay down the pen, I have to prepare myself for the possibility that my writer’s world might one day veer off in an unexpected direction. Seeing your book in print -- ah, the joy of that! -- is no guarantee of continued success. In fact, as many friends have warned me, the real hard work begins after publication. Steel yourself, Nancy!

However, as I wait for news on my latest project, I have to ask myself if I am prepared should the response not be what I am hoping for. Since I don’t readily crumble, I like to think I am. But just as I am surprised by my unsteady response to my son’s imminent departure (I’m quite certain I will be a blubbering mess at his graduation), I have to wonder if I could handle a disruption to my writing career with as much grace and determination as my friend, who has transformed the proclamation from her publisher into new goals and a fresh commitment to writing.

So, as authors, what can we do to prepare ourselves for setbacks and changes? I am not the ultimate authority, but here are my thoughts…

-    Step 1 - take a deep breath and eat lots of chocolate. Okay, that might not work for all of you, but I know it would for me.

-    Don’t rest on your laurels. This is the ‘hard work’ everyone warned me about. Be willing to get your name out there by every means possible (this advice coming from someone who hates to tweet). Work on the next book immediately. Continue to learn and hone your craft. Pay attention to the direction the industry is heading and how you might take advantage of that.

-    Save everything you have ever written. You might find a fresh source of inspiration, a story that speaks to you now better than it did when you originally had the idea, in the pages of past material. I know I have. For instance, a character that was excised from Josiah’s Treasure will be making an appearance in my current project. I’m pretty happy for him, because he is a lovable scoundrel and I have never written one of those before.

-    Be ready to change your pen name, reinvent yourself, try another sub-genre (or entirely NEW genre) if necessary. Flexibility is key, and many folks have had to do some amazing backbends and twists to survive the ups-and-downs.

-    Remind yourself that the publishing business is just that -- a business -- and as such, decisions are often made based on the bottom-line and dollars-and-cents. They are not meant to be personal nor an attack on your ability as a writer. With all the changes occurring right now in the industry, brick-and-mortar publishers are scrambling to figure out how to compete in the e-book market. Unfortunately, authors are being caught in the morass. If you find yourself tossed over, pick yourself up, lift your chin and see Step 1.

My best to all of you, all of us. We have chosen a terrifying path, we authors, but one I doubt any of us would step off of.

And if you happen to be at my son’s graduation this June, please have plenty of tissues handy.

Nancy Herriman abandoned a career in Engineering to chase around two small children and take up the pen. She has been writing for longer than she would like to admit. Her work has been a finalist in several Romance Writers of America contests and she won the 2006 RWA Daphne du Maurier award for Best Unpublished Mystery/Romantic Suspense. In 2009, she was an ACFW Genesis finalist. She is a member of American Christian Fiction Writers and Romance Writers of America.

When she is not writing, or gabbing over lattes about writing, she is either watching history shows on cable TV or singing. She lives in the Midwest with her husband and sons, and wishes there were more hours in the day. You can contact Nancy through her website at

Leave a comment for Nancy for a chance to win one of two signed copies of her latest release, Josiah's Treasure.

In 1882 San Francisco, Sarah Whittier dreams of opening an art studio run by immigrant women. She plans to use the house left to her by family friend Josiah Cady as collateral for her studio. But will all be lost when the inheritance is challenged by a man claiming to be Josiah’s son and legal heir? His arrival has also resurrected dangerous rumors of gold nuggets hidden in the house. Her future uncertain and her safety threatened, Sarah has nowhere to turn. Unless she can soften a vengeful man’s heart–-and they both learn that love is the only treasure worth having. Read an excerpt from the first chapter here.


Helen Gray said...

I am not one who accepts change well. I have to be dragged screeching and yowling in many cases. (I haven't even tried to tweet.)

But I hang around here and make the coffee.

The pot is set to brew.


CatMom said...

Welcome Nancy, and thanks for the helpful tips for us. Yes, there's definitely lots of change going on in the publishing world *sigh*.

My heart goes out to you as you prepare for your son to leave for college. I had enough of a struggle when my two daughters went away (thankfully not too far), but when my son (my BABY!) left for college (only 35 min. away) I was a disaster. And still get emotional at times....But of course I'm one of those moms who'd keep my kiddos at home forever if I could. Anyway, I'm sure you'll be fine--but don't be hard on yourself. Just stock up on the Kleenex and if you need to cry, go ahead.

Thanks again for sharing this post with us, and please enjoy the Georgia Peach cobbler I've baked. *grin*
Blessings from Georgia, Patti Jo

Melanie Pike said...

Change...As I tell moms when their first child goes off to Kindergarten: "Just wait. Your first goes, then your next (and next, if you have more than 2). Before you know it, they're graduated from high school and both in college. Then you have college graduates, and before you know it, they're married. And giving you grandkids." Time flies when you have kids, doesn't it? (Speaking as one who has 2 kids who are both married. Daughter has 3 children, ages 8, 5 and 3. Son has a 21mo son, with a daughter due in less than 4 weeks. And he, his wife and son live with us--have for over 2 years--talk about change!!!)

Thank you for this post, especially as I "face" a Love Inspired editor tomorrow afternoon in a chat room to pitch my book (which was originally written 24 years ago). Whatever the outcome of the pitch, I will take your words to heart. :)

I would love to win a copy of your book. The name Josiah has special meaning for me; it's the name of my great great grandfather. (And what is wonderful about that? My great great grandmother's name is Huldah. In the Bible there was a prophetess named Huldah in the time of King Josiah!)

Have rambled enough, considering it's nearly 1 a.m. Thank you again!


Debra E. Marvin said...

What a very timely message, Nancy! I don't know what the publishing world was like 10 yrs ago. I wasn't paying attention. But it FEELS like it has been on a roller-coaster for the last five or six. E publishing for all, realignments of publishers, shifting genres...yikes.
A mind shift from a writer who writes to a writer who manages marketing AND writes.

Thank God Helen is still setting up the coffee pot, though I hear she's been looking at Keurigs...

Cindy W. said...

Change and I have different addresses. :) I have never really embraced change which I realize isn't a good thing since I have had so much change in my life. In most of the cases the change was for the good now that I look back at it but some of the changes were pure evil in my opinion.

I love the cover of Josiah's Treasure and would love to win a copy. Thank you for the chance.

Smiles & Blessings,
Cindy W.

countrybear52 AT yahoo DOT com

Ruth Logan Herne said...

Nancy, what an apt message... I cried each time I dropped a kid off for college... because I'm a closet SAP.

But then they came home and I was all excited because yeah, they were coming home!!! They missed me too!!!

Except they were mostly coming home to visit their friends, the brats! :)

I love your advice on staying flexible in this biz. Lines close... editors change. If we don't keep ourselves ready-to-adapt, we can be the fly on the bottom of the wheel real quick. Flexible authors tend to get steady paychecks. We don't re-invent the wheel... We just pack a well-made parachute.

Jackie said...

Good morning everybody. I'm hoping for some sunshine in KY today.

Nancy, welcome to Seekerville.

My youngest son just finished his second year of college. He didn't go far and I think because of that he wanted to prove he could have gone far away. He rarely came home that first year. I'm talking Thanksgiving and Christmas. I had to make my peace with that and accept it was part of his growing up.

That empty spot at the dinner table? My hubby and I eat in front of the TV most nights now. Pathetic? You bet, but it works for us.

Here's the sweet part, he will come home at some point. And I've learned to treasure those moments.

Thanks for sharing with us Nancy.

Jackie L.

BTW, you're book sounds great. Please add my name to the drawing. Thanks.

Jenny Blake said...

Hi Nancy,
Again i can see this applying to other aspects of life not just a novelist and its good to always have options. I myself love the kindle as being Aussie there are some books we dont have come and also I love my kindle. Its so easy to take places. (I love print books too but love my kindle.)

tour update. doing the civil war tour today (checking sites around here wow they are massive and I am so glad I rewatch Gods and Generals and Gettysburg) Also authors who have written about the civil war have given me knowledge which I found came to me yesterday. and its sunny and I can wear shorts!

Emily C. Reynolds said...

Great thoughts to consider. It's hard for most of us to adapt to change, and this is a great reminder that WE are not the ones in ultimate control. Of anything.

Would love to be entered for your new release! It sounds awesome.


karenk said...

a wonderful posting...thanks for sharing :)

kmkuka at yahoo dot com

nherriman84 said...

Thanks for the welcome everyone! Here I am with my own cup of coffee (courtesy of Keurig). Your posts have made me smile (or outright laugh, Ruth!). Wish you could all win a copy!


Cindy Regnier said...

Oh Nancy - that graduation thing is tough. You'll hate it and you'll love it all at once. Been there done that 3 times and it didn't get any easier. But it is SO awesome to watch your young men take off in their own direction (which you have pointed them in). Grab your pen and use the extra time and emotion making stories. I can't wait to read your book. I have a character in one of my stories named Josiah I've grown very attached to!

Clari Dees said...

Thank you for the encouragement today, Nancy.

I'm reaching for the chocolate because there are a lot of changes happening around my house and I'm not handling them well. (Much to the annoyance of those who are excited about the changes.) :-/

The book sounds wonderful, and I love the cover. Makes me want to pick it up and read it. :-)

Carol Moncado said...

NANCY! I don't think I knew you were a Midwestern gal!

I don't generally accept change well either.

Unless it's change I picked. Like moving when we wanted to not because we had to for a job etc. Or having another baby. Now, deciding not to have ANOTHER baby after all? That change was [still is sometimes] hard.

I see how others take change [like Mel with the B&H closing their fiction line thing], and wonder how she's not a blubbering mess cowering in a closet. Maybe she was and emailed me from there... Hmm...

I'm also pitching to LI today. At noon central. Oy.

I have Cookie Overload ice cream for afterwards. Either way.

[And thanks all for your continued prayers for Steve. Should know more mid-late morning about whether or not the clot has dissolved which will determine what kind of surgery/procedure he has to have later today.]

Jeanne T said...

Nancy, what a timeless post! Being open to change reaches across all areas of our lives. But it seems especially for writers, we need to lean into flexibility, with all the changes in our industry.

Thanks for the great suggestions, especially beginning with prayer.

Jeanne T said...

Oh, and I'll say a prayer for you. My kiddos are still far from the college years, but I'm already NOT looking forward to saying good-bye.

Jan Drexler said...

A great post, Nancy!

One thing I've learned from Seekerville is that you have to be flexible as a writer. Change is going to happen - that's a given - but our response to it is key.

Changes in the family? When my oldest left home I cried for days. I was a mess. It didn't help that the rest of the family was moving at the same time - not only was he leaving home, but he didn't have a home to come back to.

Of course, he did end up coming back, and is living with us now for awhile.

The lesson? Sometimes the changes we dread the most turn out to be the best things after all :)

Marianne Barkman said...

i thought as a farmer, and growing up as a funeral director's kid, change was normal...plan A seldom stayed plan A, and usually turned into plan Z before anything else happened. But that doesn't mean i have to like it...who except teens really embraces change of any sort? Guess that ages most of us. Oh well, enjoy your tours, Jenny as i am enjoying coffee and chocolate, Helen. i would love to win your novel, Nancy. Thanks for a great thought for Wednesday morning.

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Janet Dean said...

Welcome to Seekerville, Nancy! Change is daunting. Even good changes carry ups and downs. Sometimes I'd like to freeze frame our grandkids, keep them young and adoring. LOL But, I'd never wish that on anyone, not that I have the power if I did. How little is under our control. Good thing. :-) But when outside forces flip our world, we have to be flexible. Even as you say, reinvent ourselves.


Julie Lessman said...

GOOD MORNING, ALL!! One thing that does NOT "change" is me sleeping in and getting here late ... especially the three days after my daughter's wedding!! But all went well, and I am ready to roll ...

WELCOME BACK TO SEEKERVILLE, NANCE!! It's SO good to have you here again, my friend, and your message?? As Deb Marvin so aptly pointed out -- MOST "timely" for all of us -- you with your son leaving for college, me with my daughter leaving for a new life with her husband, and ALL of us writers with a market that is EVER CHANGING!!

I have taken the month of May to fast Amazon and e-mails in order to seek God out about what "change" He wants to see in my life. That would be something I would add to your list, at least for me. To pull back and focus only on Him as much as possible, seeking His face on the path He has ordained for each of us, both in our talents and in our lives.

Ironically, as a person who is not partial to "change," I am actually seeking "change" now so I can be where He wants me to be. Hope to be a lot wiser come June 1st ... :)


kaybee said...

I wish I had laurels to rest on. But yeah, I see what you mean. It's like Woody Allen once said: "Now that I'm a celebrity, I'm being rejected by a better class of woman." Or something to that effect. We have to trust God. My husband pastored for a while when we were younger, and oh boy, that's like writing, you simply cannot predict the outcome and it changes on the proverbial dime, even when you have done your best I want to go home to Jesus. Till then, guess I'll keep writing.
Kathy Bailey
Pre-pubbed in NH

Amy said...

It's hard, so hard. My youngest went to the army. "To make a difference. To stand up for my country." In 2003. Two months later, on Thanksgiving, she called to say her training office told them they're ALL going to Iraq. I cried so much, I thought I'd run out of tears.

I came across something today in my notes, "Don't try to control; embrace the Surprise". I can't tell you where it came from, but it resonated deeply with my tendency to do the opposite.

Nancy said...

Love that quote, Amy!
And yes, I have turned to prayer MANY times to make it through this journey that feels like it's a loaded minefield some days!! LOL!


May the K9 Spy (and KC Frantzen) said...


There's a hug coupon for when you need it at graduation. :)

Thanks for this post. I'm sorry for your friend/mentor but it sounds like the Lord is moving her in another direction.

If she e-pubs, will it be through the publisher, or is she striking out on her own?

What a time of change for certain... Wow.

Great reminder to be flexible on those backbends and twists! :)

Tina Radcliffe said...

Welcome, Nancy. Thoughtful post.

Really got me thinking.

Generally everything in life is handled the same for me.

Whine for 24 hours.
Then repent and pray and move on.


Tina Radcliffe said...

And folks pray for all the gals doing the Happily Editor After pitch this afternoon EST.

Christina said...

Nancy, your post really hit home for me. So many changes, both personal and professional.I'm just thinking back to those days when I submitted my work in a manuscript box, a floppy disc and now as an attachment. I feel old. And then there's my son who wants to move out on his own and my daughter getting ready for college this fall. Even though she will be home it just feels like everything is changing too fast.

I hope I will be one of those writers who, in the interest of creating a long term career, will be able to roll with the industry punches. Though I'm not yet published in fiction, I'm trying to be open to print, ebooks, self pubbing and whatever other changes come down the pike. The only thing in life that I do know doesn't change is Jesus, the same yesterday, today and forever. Prayer gets me through.
Congrats to you! I love the cover of Josiah's Treasure!

Susan Anne Mason said...

Hi Nancy,

Congrats on your latest release!

I am lucky. My daughter is still at home. She took a year off after high school and worked, and now just finished her first year of college. But she chose to live at home and commute to a nearby campus, which thrilled me! I love having her home, despite the messy room! LOL.

Will say a prayer for you as your baby heads off to new adventures.

Thanks for the advice about the writing world. Very wise words indeed.

CAROL, MELANIE & all the brave souls pitching to LI! Wishing you all good luck!


Susan Anne Mason said...

Glad Julie's not boycotting Seekerville during her month of 'fasting'!

Glad the wedding went well!

:) Sue

CatMom said...

P.S. @Julie Lessman--CONGRATULATIONS!! I guess I'm really behind, because I didn't realize your daughter had just married! I'm sure you were a lovely Mother of the Bride. What a special time for you all.
Hugs, Patti Jo :)

Mary Connealy said...

Change is good. We all resist it, resent it, avoid it. Then when it's thrust upon us and we survive I think we're stronger and better and often happier.

Unless of course the change is a screaming, burning, dying, hideous disaster.

Thus ends Mary's Words of Wisdom for TUESDAY

Preslaysa Williams said...

I just finished reading "Who Moved My Cheese?" and your post resonates with me, especially after reading that book. Thanks for sharing your wise advice.


Mary Connealy said...

PRESLAYSA I've read Who Moved My Cheese, too. Very interesting.

pol said...

Hi Nancy nice to meet ya, there are always so many changes in life and I for one am not good at them, I like to find a way and stick with it. like reading my books and now they have all this new tech stuff that I cringe to see. "Don't get rid of my books".
I would love to read your new book-
JOSIAH'S TREASURE, reading here on seekerville I can see there is lot of hard work involved with being an author. Thank God you all have the stamina for it.
Paula O

Tina Radcliffe said...

And another shout out CONGRATULATIONS to Genesis finalist Preslaysa!!

Tina Radcliffe said...

AND WOOT Snoopy dancing for Susan Anne Mason Genesis finalist.

Tina Radcliffe said...

Welcome to Seekerville Christian from New York!!!!

Tina Radcliffe said...

Welcome to Seekerville AMY!

My eldest did the Army and so did his MOM, so I can truly relate. But I worried less about the Army kid than the ones loose in a big city. ")

Tina Radcliffe said...

Jenny Blake from Australia is having fun touring the USA. More importantly, Jenny, keep us posted on where you EAT today.

Tina Radcliffe said...

Well, Clari, I was just thinking of you today. Sorry about that old change thing.

Stomping your feet does help.

Julie Lessman said...

Hey, SUZI-Q ... nope, not boycotting Seekerville, FB, or my own blog -- just e-mails!! :) Thanks for your good wishes and prayers on the wedding -- SO appreciate it, my friend. :)

And, PATTI JO, thank you for the congrats -- it was a VERY special time and one we will never forget ... especially Keith, who had to pay for it ... ;)


Debby Giusti said...


Such an insightful blog post today. Change is always hard, although as Mary mentioned, often it's filled with blessings. Or maybe it's the when-handed-lemons thing. You know, make lemonade. Actually, I prefer Diet Coke! And my routine. :)

I do give myself pep talks from time to time.
I am a writer!
I am a writer!
I am a writer!
If one door closes, hopefully another one will open. Usually I can feel God ushering me over that new threshold, which calms my racing heart and elevated blood pressure.

Did I mention change is hard?

Pat Jeanne Davis said...

Enjoyed getting to know you here, Nancy. Great advice on how to roll with the punches while trying to stay on top of the changes and keep balance. Congratulations on your newest novel. Both my boys lived at home while attending college so saw them all the time. I know what Tina means about our kids loose in a big city. That was a concern for me after they started college in the heart of Philly. The oldest just moved into his own apartment. It's an adjustment for me, too.

All the best to those who give a LI pitch today.

Jenny: Wonderful to read about your adventures while traveling. Enjoy yourself and make many memories and friendships before returning to Australia.

Congratulations to all the other semi-finalists in the Genesis. I'm so happy to be named as one.

Vince said...

Hi Nancy:

Your comments make me think of the "Prophet" by Kihil Gibran:

“Your children are not your children.
They are the sons and daughters of Life's longing for itself.
They come through you but not from you,
And though they are with you, yet they belong not to you. “

About your friend who was dropped after all those years, it makes me think of the Congressman asking his good friend, George, for his vote:

“George, I can count on your vote, can’t I? I got your boy in West Point, I fixed that Medicare problem you were having, I got the IRS to drop that late penalty, and I had the state department issue your passport in two weeks instead of the normal six.”

George “That’s all true but what have you done for me lately?”


TINA: I’m like you. To make things easier on my mother, I went into the Air Force first, then college. When I went overseas in the military my mother said, “Don’t come back here with a non English speaking wife.” When I went to college she said, “You better come back here with a wife.” Women! ☺

HELEN: I’m with you. I’d be more for change if change ever really improved anyone’s quality of life. Every time they invent a new labor saving gadget, they drop more work on us. Word processors…great! Secretaries...gone! ("Do your own typing, Turkey!")

RUTH: You wrote:

"I cried each time I dropped a kid off for college... because I'm a closet SAP.

But then they came home and I was all excited because yeah, they were coming home!!! They missed me too!!!

Except they were mostly coming home to visit their friends, the brats! :)
" (Brats with Laundry).

BTW: Men cry, too. Oh, not over the empty place at the dinner table but the empty bank account.


P.S. NANCY: Did you and Julie collaborate on life in San Francisco circa 1880 to 1903? I love that time period and location. Please enter me for a chance to win your book.

Debby Giusti said...

Saying calming prayers for all those who will be pitching in Love Inspired's Happily Editor After!!!

Pitches start at 1PM EST!!!

Keep us posted, ladies!

Debby Giusti said...

Enjoy the battle fields today, Jenny! Rejoicing that the sun is out and temperature is rising. Have fun!!!

Loved the Tim Tams!!! I had the mint dark chocolate ones. Be still my heart! Yummy good! Where can I buy them in the US?

Julie Lessman said...


VINCE ... LOL, no, Nancy and I did not collaborate ahead of time ... just the "great minds" syndrome at work here .. ;)

DEB ... LOVE the pep talks you give yourself!! I tend to cry during mine ... ;)


Nancy Herriman said...

Prayers for EVERYONE pitching to LI today. I remember those days well! (and, sadly, it never gets easier)

Thanks for the virtual hugs and all the words of encouragement and sympathy. You guys are great!


Pam Hillman said...

More congrats to Genesis semi-finalists!

Good luck to the pitchers today...


I might not like change, but I can handle it when it makes sense to me, or I can see that it will make things better.

Change for the sake of change...not so much. But even then, there have been times that change hit me over the head, and I had to go with it even when I didn't like it or understand it.

When in doubt, I ask Mary...

Jodi Janz said...

What fantastic advice Nancy. I am just a newbie and unpublished. Sometimes as I stand on the sidelines (in training) and gaze onto the field where the action is I think to myself "that game is moving so fast I don't know how I will ever enter it."
Thanks for your insightful glimpse into the fast-paced and ever changing game of writing.
And chocolate works every time!

Nancy Kimball said...

You had me at loveable scoundrel. =)

nancyherriman said...

Vince -

No Julie and I did not collaborate, but what a fascinating time and place as late 1800s San Francisco, eh? And thank you for sharing that poem. Fabulous.


nancyherriman said...

Debby, I think I have found my new mantra!



nancyherriman said...

Jodi - just jump in! And hang on!

And yes, Nancy, loveable scoundrel. He won't be the main character but I can seem him taking over easily.


nancyherriman said...

Carol - make sure you send updates on how the pitch went and how Steve is doing.

Yes, a fellow midwesterner. Ah, we're a sturdy breed, eh? ;-)


nancyherriman said...

Helen and CatMom - time to send over the coffee and peach cobbler. I think I need fortification for the afternoon I have ahead of me!


nancyherriman said...

Melanie - how did your pitch go (if you've had it already, that is)?

And a Josiah and a Huldah in your family? Very cool.


Clari Dees said...

Thanks, Tina.
I've been doing a bit of foot-stomping and whining. Okay, maybe more than a bit. I think God's doing some pruning. (Sigh.)

And now as even I'm tired of my bad attitude, enough about that.

Praying for all the pitchers today. I hope they all hit it out of the park!

nancyherriman said...

Jan - I've been thinking about your post and you're absolutely right - 'Sometimes the changes we dread the most turn out to be the best things after all'. Quite often very hard to see at the time, though.


Melanie Pike said...

Nancy, my pitch isn't until 2:30. Getting more nervous as the time goes on... Not sure why since my pitch has been ready for almost a week, thanks to help from 3 wonderful ladies!

I do not like change. Leave me in my comfort zone, my hidey-hole, my head buried in the sand... But I've been getting lots of messages this year about the talents God gives people. The one talent I hadn't been using and was keeping buried? Writing. And it's the one that has been a part of me longer than any other talent I might have (well, other than drawing, but I gave that up years ago; I don't miss that like I'd missed writing--must tell me something right there!).

I know pitching started less than 20 minutes ago. I might go into the Waiting Room and see how things are going. Hoping and praying LI comes away with lots of new authors out of this, even if one of them isn't me, LOL!

Thank you for all the prayers for all of us! I have never done anything like this before, so it's really dragging me out of my rut AKA comfort zone...

nancyherriman said...

"Change is good. We all resist it, resent it, avoid it. Then when it's thrust upon us and we survive I think we're stronger and better and often happier.

Unless of course the change is a screaming, burning, dying, hideous disaster."

Smiling over this, Mary! ;-)

nancyherriman said...

Will be thinking of you, then, Melanie. And I am SO glad you're pursuing your talent and have returned to writing.


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Marissa said...

At the end of this summer, my family will be going through a huge change! I'm leaving for my first year of college and my parents are moving to a different state because of my dad's job. I've realized that I reeeeeeealy don't like change.


Walt Mussell said...

Just left Happily Editor After. Requested proposal for my first century India story. Now I need coffee really bad. :-)

Bridgett Henson said...

Pitched to Elizabeth Mazer. I was so nervous that I almost backed out. She requested a FULL!!!!

Bridgett Henson said...

Congratulations Walt. Talk about change. This can be a good thing. I recognized several others in the waiting room. Let's pray we get more great results.

Walt Mussell said...

Congrats to you, Bridgett! There were very few FULLs requested. I bet you're ecstatic.

Tina Radcliffe said...


nancyherriman said...

Congrats Walt (India? LOVE IT!) and Bridgett on the requests. AWESOME!!!!

nancyherriman said...

And Marissa, I don't think my son who's headed off to college likes change all that much, either (which probably explains why he's going to be less than a 1/2 hour away as opposed to the more desirable school he got into that's 2 hours away )

Best to you on the changes headed your way....


Carol Moncado said...

I got a "thanks but no thanks" from my pitch.

Life goes on.

I have Cookie Overload ready to come out of the freezer.

Steve's clot is better but not great. They stopped the blood thinners for now and everyone is getting together in the morning [all the docs etc] to decide what to do. Open heart surgery is looking likely from what I understand. Thanks all, for your continued prayers.

Tina Radcliffe said...

Okay folks. Get ready to holler. Annie Rains and Anna Weaver got requests.


Tina Radcliffe said...

Bridgett congrats.

Carol, you still owe me a read.

Let's get that puppy going.

nancyherriman said...

Carol - :-(. Soldier on, girl. Continued prayers for Steve.

And YAY to Annie and Anna! WOOT!!


Carol Moncado said...

A read?

Maybe it's because I haven't slept well and it's been a helluva week, but I'm not sure what you're talking about...

I did make oodles of edits after the last thing you read though...

Tina Radcliffe said...

Nancy Herriman, tell us a bit about your current publisher. Who do you work with there.

What's up next (you mentioned waiting to hear).

How do you go from a degree in chemical engineering to writing historical romance. Too cool.

Tina Radcliffe said...

Oh, maybe you don't owe me a read. Maybe I have brain fry. Sleep Carol sweetie.

nancyherriman said...

Tina, I'm with Worthy right now, but I'm switching to mysteries with my current work (and expecting they won't want it). But my amazing agent has faith we'll get it elsewhere! ;-)

And I have always wanted to write (just as I have always loved to sing), so the switch to writing from my years as an engineer took some adjustment (such as learning there is no formula to writing, at least not for me) but it wasn't as hard or strange as it might seem.


Elaine Manders said...

Nancy, I want to get my hands on Josiah's Treasure. Put me in the drawing, please. I got lost in San Francisco once...not just my heart...all of me.

Yay to all coming away with requests from LI. I think everyone who participated come out ahead. I doubt I'll have anything ready to pitch at RWA.

Heidi said...

That is some great advice that can be applied to many industries! Thanks for sharing!


nancyherriman said...

Elaine - it's pretty easy to get lost in San Francisco, LOL!!

Hope you have a chance to win the book.


Tina Radcliffe said...

A good agent is worth six cup cakes or more.

I am sure you will be bloom.

Jeanne T said...

CAROL, I'm sorry for the disappointment. Your time is coming. You inspire me, girl. I'm sending some cyber chocolate chocolate chip cookies your way. God's got you, and He loves you. :)

nancyherriman said...

You are so welcome, Heidi.

And yes, Tina, a good agent is worth a whole bunch of cupcakes.


Piper Huguley said...

I didn't realize people were in here reporting back... I got a request for a proposal from Emily, so I was pleased.

Hugs to you Carol, and praying for Steve as well.


Piper Huguley said...

And I am with Melanie in the change department, I'm not a big fan, but I do recognize the need to remain flexible in this business.

Love the cover on your book, Nancy, it is great. I also love the time period and place. I've got to get back to San Francisco someday. It's beautiful there!

Debby Giusti said...

Congrats to all who received requests from LI today!!!

Emily is my fantastic editor. You'll love working with her. And Elizabeth is so sweet and fun!

Walt...the India story is a go! Whoot!

Yay, Piper! Which story?

A full! How cool is that, Bridgett!

Yay, Annie and Anna!!!

Did I miss anyone? Hugs to all!

Connie Queen said...

I HATE change!

Doesn't Walmart know I shop there because I buy the same things every week and I know where they are on the shelves? Do they rearrange items just to hear me mumble to the other customers who shop every Thursday morning from 8:30 to 9:30? Seriously, I've meet some nice people.

I've had the same internet service since I signed up in 2001 even though there are cheaper ones out there. (Same thing w/my cell phone...drives my husband crazy.)

I order the same things at the same diners.

But I'd like to think I'd be open to change in the writing industry because I'm not yet published. Probably not true, but I'd like to think I suddenly be flexible.

Nancy, I love your cover and your book sounds cute.

nancyherriman said...

Thanks for loving the cover, Piper. And congrats on the request!


nancyherriman said...

Connie, I always order the same thing at the restaurants I frequent! I can write about change, but I'm not sure I like it any better than the next person!


Preslaysa Williams said...

Mary Connealy, how cool that you read the book too. My hubby read it, and then I saw Dave Ramsey recommend it on his website. (I'm a Dave Ramsey devotee, lol.) So I picked it up.

Piper Huguley said...

Hey neighbor Debby!

This was a pitch for a new series idea--it takes place in 1866. I wanted to see if a 19thc story idea would fly for me. I'm not abandoning my sisters, but I just wanted to see how this would go. It was actually my first story idea before I started the Bledsoe sisters series.


Anna R. Weaver said...

Thanks for the prayers, congrats, and encouragement, everyone! And congrats to Melanie, Walt, Piper, Bridgett, and Annie!

Mary Connealy said...

What a day. I love the LI is doing this, good for them for trying something new and different, a change for them as well as all of us.

Carol, praying for Steve and sorry for the no thanks, girl.

Piper Huguley said...

Thank you for the congrats Nancy and Anna!

Remember what I said about Tina on FB--she cracks a whip, but gets it done!

Walt Mussell said...

Piper, congrats from me as well to my fellow off-the-beaten-track setting writer. :-)

Melanie Pike said...

Congratulations to everyone who received some sort of request at the ballpark--er, pitch--today! Shana requested a synopsis from me, so now I need to read up on how to write one (did a 1-pager over 10 years ago for the Harlequin Intrigue contest).

Carol, I am so sorry that you didn't receive a request... *hug*

My legs are numb and/or hurting from sitting here for hours--went in to the waiting room before 1:30 and didn't pitch until about 3:20. And then I had to catch up on e-mails and Facebook. Yeah, definitely an introvert--I'd rather sit at the computer than meet with people in person. ;-)

Thanks again for all the prayers for everyone!

Piper Huguley said...

Hey, we have to hang together don't we Walt?

Congrats to you, too!

nancyherriman said...

Ah, the dreaded synopsis, Melanie! Hope LI loves it and asks for more!


Tina Radcliffe said...

Change is something you have to deal with before you sell, after you sell and every moment in between as a writer.


Tina Radcliffe said...

Congrats to Piper and Melanie!!!

Bridgett Henson said...

Nancy, in my excitement I forgot to tell you how wonderful your book sounds. Enter me for the drawing. :)

And congratulations to all who received requests.

(((Hugs))) to Carol. I think you're an awesome writer. Eat some of those cookies and write on. :)

nancyherriman said...

Will do, Bridgett!


Carol Moncado said...

Ugh. With everything going on, I forgot to mention...


That is all.

[Not really. Have you ever known me to say just that? ;)

Seriously though, it's good.

Ice cream is consumed. Tears are cried. More will likely come but I think a big part of it is stress release, being overwhelmed, etc. after a very, very, very up and down week - with way more down than up. Now where's the Advil?]

nancyherriman said...

Thanks, Carol, for the compliment. :-)

Sending you virtual Advil, m'dear.


Mary Curry said...

I know my day has been insane when I completely forget that something as big as the pitch is going on.

I'll blame it on nearly being struck by lightning this morning. Guess it was a good thing I wasn't pitching since I forgot all about it. ;)

Congrats to all who got requests. Hugs, some shots of determination, and more hugs for those who didn't.

Nancy, I read your post very early this morning. I loathe change and I've always envied those who don't, who see it as adventure.

Off to catch up and read more.

Glad to be safe and dry.

nancyherriman said...

Almost got struck by lightning, Mary????? Yikes!


Jenny Blake said...

We went to Rock city today and then Ruby Falls. both amazing places (civil war tomorrow).
we got fudge! I saw a chipmonk and boy was it cute. I have a stuffed one now.
we ate at a cafe at Lookout mountain. today was a burger (but I opted for little of the extras) but it was very filling.
we are going to dipping dots at some stage.

Debby here is a link for timtams and other aussie goodies.

nancyherriman said...

Sounds fun, Jenny!


Anna R. Weaver said...

Hugs heading your way, Carol.

Cara Lynn James said...

Great advice, Nancy! With all the changes going on in publishing these days, it's hard for all authors!

Debra E. Marvin said...

I'm glad to see some good things out of the pitch session today. Carol you've had quite a crazy week. Ups and downs galore, sweetie!

I'm going to go find out more about your book, Nancy!

DebH said...

not sure about change sometimes. i know it's more for the good than bad - but it tends to be scary.

my latest change is leaving toddler at day care. first day was yesterday. poor child has his own change going on. he was okay fine all day until another parent picked up their little one and then it was WHERE'S MY MOMMY?

he was very relieved to see mommy come through the door, but let me know he wouldn't be happy again until he got some chocolate milk. *heh*

tomorrow is second day care day. hopefully we will both get through the day without too much crying *heh*

note to self: change is good

DebH said...


congrats to all those who pitched, whether requests were made or not. good Lord, being picked for the pitch is a grand step of success in the right direction in my book. (as one who's not been asked to the party...yet)

nancyherriman said...

Oh, Deb, I remember those days of leaving my toddler at day care. They were so hard! And then the first days of school. Many hugs.


Chill N said...

>> Remind yourself that the publishing business is just that -- a business -- and as such, decisions are often made based on the bottom-line and dollars-and-cents. <<

Saving those words to print on the top of every rejection :-)

Your book sounds wonderful, Nancy. Very fresh, and I mean that in the best of ways. I'm thinking many a reader will be glad you left engineering behind.

And hey, you've worked hard for the right to bawl at your son's graduation. Go for it!

Nancy C

nancyherriman said...

You are right, Nancy C - I will bawl away! ;-)


Chill N said...

Congrats to everyone who pitched to LI today -- requests or not. You stepped up to bat ... er, pitch ... and that's applause worthy.

Nancy C

Lyndee H said...

Thanks for the thoughtful post, Nancy. No chocolate for me, but will substitute with Pomeranian kisses instead, lol.

Carol - HUGS. You are out there walking the walk and I have no doubt that the path will take you where you want to be when the time is right.

Congrats to everyone who had the guts to pitch today!

Walt, Bridget, Annie, Piper and Ann and some that I probably missed.

Preslaysa and Susan - YAY on the Genesis!

OZ Jenny- Been thinking about you. PA is my growing up stomping grounds. I hope you enjoy!


Walt Mussell said...

Carol, well wishes from me as I know you're a great writer.

Audra Harders said...

Nancy, without a doubt, change is difficult. It robs you of sleep, makes you doubt yourself.

Drives you chocolate : )

I agree with you about picking up the pen and keep on writing. You never know where your hard work will lead.

Thanks for sharing!

Julie Lessman said...


SUPER CONGRATS to everyone who received requests today:

WALT -- a request for a proposal???!!! AWESOME JOB, my friend!!! Soooo happy for you!!

BRIDGETT ... A FULL?? POP the carbonated grape juice or champagne ... whatever you prefer!! Great job!!

WHOO-HOO, Piper, Annie R., Melanie P. and Anna W. -- you go, girls!!


Julie Lessman said...


CAROL ... saying one for Steve and a DOUBLE GENESIS FINALIST has nothing to feel badly about in not getting a request from LI, my friend. Double finaling is HUGE and twice as much assurance that you can write! :)

MARISSA ... that's a lot of change, darlin', but you'll survive and be stronger for it! :)

MARY -- STRUCK BY LIGHTENING??? Tell me you're joking!!

oh, DEBH ... I remember those days of wailing and crying at the door of the daycare ... and that was me!! ;) It's almost as bad as college ...

JENNY!!! SOOOO glad you are enjoying your visit ... wish I could be there to give you a hug!!


Julie Lessman said...


And speaking of "hands on," cannot WAIT to get mine on your new book, girlfriend. I already love your writing, but the Irish in 1882 San Fran??? You got me there, sweetie, hook, line, and shillelagh!! ;)


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travelingstacey said...

Hi Nancy...thanks for the tips/advice. I especially like number one...the chocolate to be specific ; ). Just reading about your feelings on your son's graduation made me have that little moment of panic thinking how fast it's going to go by for me! My oldest is just 6 right now and the other day she was jumping up and down saying, "I can't wait til I'm 7!" I said to her, "whoa, girly...let's slow it down a little bit!" : ) I'd love to be in the drawing! Blessings~Stacey

nancyherriman said...

Thanks for having me, guys! I'm packing it in for the evening. It's been fun to be here!

Mary Preston said...

I just have to believe that change can often be a good thing.

I do appreciate a hard copy in hand.

I'd love to read JOSIAH'S TREASURE thank you.

Sarah said...

I would love to win,Enter me!!
Thanks for the giveaway and God Bless!!
Sarah Richmond

jacqui19 said...

Change is always difficult. The alternative to children's leaving is their dependence upon parents forever. No one would want that scenario.

jacqui19 said...

I much prefer to hold a book in my hand, and I am sure that there still are others like me. I read books on the Kindle, but it just isn't the same for me. The convenience of the e-readers is great. Yet, I like to mark my place with a special, colorful bookmark.