Wednesday, July 3, 2019

Roll with the Changes

by Mindy Obenhaus

If you’re like me, the title of this post has tunes of REO Speedwagon drifting through your head. I love that song. 

But I digress.

Change is inevitable. Seasons change, times change, our bodies change... Some people welcome change while others avoid it like the plague. Wherever you are on the spectrum, change is certain. Even, or should I say especially, in the world of publishing.

When I started writing, one of the first things I learned was that change was a part of writing. Cutting too much backstory in the first chapter, reworking scenes to show and not tell. And those were okay, but there were still phrases or certain lines I’d hold tightly to because they were just too good to let go. Oh, and that title? It was perfect.

Then I got my first contract. Those lines I loved? My editor wasn’t so crazy about them. And my title? Gone, replaced with something I wouldn’t have considered in a million years. I quickly learned that change is a given in the publishing industry. New houses/lines open, while others slowly fade away. Titles rarely stay the same and revisions/edits are unavoidable. You may be asked to change names, even settings. 

What’s a writer to do?

Be Flexible – This is probably the most important piece of advice writers will ever receive. And one that can easily be forgotten. Especially when you open up your first round of edits and see that your baby has been cut to pieces and is covered in colored lines and comments. You gasp for air and scream, “Nooooooooo…!” At least that’s what I’ve heard. Not that I’ve ever done anything like that.

Once you’ve had time to calm down, open up your manuscript again, read through your editors notes with an open mind and then start making those changes. Don’t ever dig-in your heels and refuse to accept any changes. Industry people talk, and you don’t want to be labeled as someone who is difficult to work with. Is it okay to question the editors on some things? Yes, just be sure you do it in a respectful manner. After all, they’ve published a lot more books than you have. They know what works/sells and what doesn’t, so it’s usually best to heed their advice.

Understand that Change Keeps Us from Growing Stagnant When my editor recently asked me to set my next series somewhere besides Ouray, Colorado, I felt as though a long-time love affair was coming to an end. My first nine books had all been set in this town that I love so much. Yet the more I thought about it, the more I realized the wisdom of her request. A different setting would keep my stories from becoming stale. I could explore new and unique things to incorporate into, not only, my stories, but their characters as well. Now I have the opportunity to do something fresh. And fresh is always better.

Reach for the Stars – More often than not, change takes us out of our comfort zone. Which is usually why we’re so reluctant to give in. But when we embrace change, it also stretches us, loosening things up, allowing us to reach farther. Change challenges us to accept that it’s God who is in charge, not us. And He has a plan. A plan to prosper and not harm us. Remember, if He calls us, He will equip us. We are never alone, especially when we follow His lead.

How do you feel about change? Do you roll with it or does it take your breath away? Leave a comment to be entered to win an advanced copy of my September release, Reunited in the Rockies.

A fresh start…and an old love reignited?
A Rocky Mountain Heroes romance
For widow Kayla Bradshaw, restoring a historic Colorado hotel means a better life for her and her soon-to-arrive baby. But she needs construction help from Jude Stephens, the love she lost through a misunderstanding. Working with Kayla, the police officer finds himself forgiving her—and longing to rebuild her shattered confidence. But can they trust each other to forge a future together?



Three-time Carol Award nominee, Mindy Obenhaus, writes contemporary romance for Love Inspired Books. She’s passionate about touching readers with Biblical truths in an entertaining, and sometimes adventurous, manner. When she’s not writing, she enjoys cooking and spending time with her grandchildren at her Texas ranch. Learn more at www.MindyObenhaus.com





55 comments:

  1. It's true changes are a part of life, but I am not a huge fan of them lol. But as you stated, it's better to be flexible and roll with the changes. That's how a slinky gets down the stairs, by being flexible. Thanks for this great post!

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    1. Sally, I love the Slinky analogy!
      KB

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    2. I'm with you, Kathy - Sally, the Slinky is a great analogy. I guess we all need to channel our inner Slinky when changes come our way.

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    3. Channel my inner slinky-my new motto. Thanks!

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    4. LOL! I am the Slinky. Be the Slinky.

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  2. Ooooh, change. I hate that word. We're in the midst of a season of change at my house with kids beginning to fly off on their own. This is great advice for living as well as writing. We need to hold things close during that particular season and learn to release them as necessary. Oh so hard! Thanks for the great encouragement and reminder today, Mindy!

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    1. Glynis, what great advice, "hold close and release as necessary."

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    2. Okay, so my brain must be stuck in the 80's rock mode, because "release as necessary" had me thinking of the song "Hold on Loosely." Oy!

      Glynis, I feel for you. Those changes with our kids can hit us hard. One day you're cooking for seven, the next you have a fridge and freezer full of leftovers because there are only two of you. Hang in there, Glynis, and hold tightly to God's hand as He navigates through the waters of change.

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    3. kaybee--I wish it was as easy to do as it is to say :)

      Minday -- that's just what I needed to hear today !

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  3. Thank you, Mindy. I'm going through a lot of changes right now, in a personal sense, because I'm older...everything from losing treasured family members to the deaths of celebrities I've admired to institutions like Sears. My day job is in print journalism, so I'm holding on for dear life. And don't get me started on technology.
    Plus I'm starting over at the bottom of a brand-new profession. Which is fun, but after Sept. 20 my life will never be the same again.
    Bible people faced a lot of changes. Adam and Eve probably thought they were set for life, if they thought at all. Ruth left her people and went home with Naomi, Abraham and Sarah left everything they knew, and a young girl named Mary could not have imagined being the vessel to bring the Son of God to earth.
    It's especially true of publishing, and especially true of publishing in 2019. Houses merge or disappear like the colored pieces of plastic in a cheap toy kaleidoscope.
    And then there's technology, which can be a blessing. I grumbled and groused when I learned that my debut novel would be an e-book. I'd been waiting all my life to hold a book in my hands, BY ME, with my name on the real paper cover. But I realized the other day that in the Current Publishing Climate, this will position me in the event that I ever want to self-publish. I'll know the ins and outs of e-books. Change can be good, as long as we cling to the One who never changes.
    Cleaning up loose ends today, may be back later.
    Kathy Bailey
    "A Home For the Heart"

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    1. Kathy, this is so lovely and profound... and true.

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    2. Well said, Kathy. You are so right about those people in the Bible who faced change. I love those wonderful examples you gave.

      And don't get me started on technology either. Let's just say it's a love/hate relationship. Except I'm the one whose blood pressure goes up.

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  4. Mindy, this is all such a good lesson for us across the board. Flexibility is so important. And pushing ourselves into change broadens our horizons and offers us growth in multiple directions.

    You know Laura Story's song "Blessings" is such a good reminder that sometimes our growth is not in the joys of life, but in life's trials.

    As wicked hard as they might be (and often are), we can become stronger and more capable as time goes on.

    Not that we wish for those trials... but we step through them, gazing forward and upward.

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    1. Ruthy, I have gone through many changes/trials in my life. And God guided me, carried me though every one. Now those times serve as markers I can look back on whenever I'm faced with change or trials. I know that I won't have to go it alone and that God is faithful.

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  5. Mindy, I love this post--and what solid advice not just for writing, but for all aspects of life!! It reminds me of that Corrie Ten Boom quote "Hold everything in your hands lightly, otherwise it hurts when God pries your fingers open.” Thanks for sprinkling some wisdom on me today!

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    1. Laurel, you have no idea how many times God has had to pry my fingers open. ;)

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  6. Change is hard. But without change there's no growth.

    I keep telling myself that, but in the middle of a season of many huge changes, I'm not sure I'm ready for that growth! Maybe I'm having growing pains. :-)

    But change in this writing stuff - you know it's going to happen. Genres have seasons of popularity...and then fizzle out. Publishing lines close. Editors leave their jobs. Agents quit. All out of our control!

    But our response to all this is what we can control. You're so right. We need to be flexible (and humble) and be willing to change for the good of our stories.

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    1. Jan, I know you're wading through the waters of change right now. Not just one thing, but many. But you and I both know you will come out of it stronger, and more flexible.

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  7. I don’t enjoy change, but I tell myself it is what it is and can I do anything about it. If not I pray and accept it. Thank you for sharing.

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  8. Mindy!!!! I love, love, love this cover! Oh my goodness, those flowers are gorgeous!

    Something I do not love, love, love - change.

    Not good at it. Not at all.

    Suddenly I'm channeling Dr. Seuss and thinking he should have written the book.

    I am Cate. Cate I am.
    I do not like that thing called change.
    I do not like it here or there, I do not like it anywhere.

    But, yeah. Life. It's all about change and we just have to go with the flow.

    I will now leave the rhyming to Dr. Seuss who does it far, far better.

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    1. Mary Cate, you made me chuckle. I think you did a fine Dr. Seuss. I know you've become quite familiar with change these past couple of years. Doesn't mean you like it, but, with God's help, you're pressing through and setting a wonderful example for those of us watching you.

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  9. Mindy, such a great post! And so true. I love the advice you gave.

    Also love the pretty cover! I love the lighting and the flowers!

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    1. They did a great job on that cover, didn't they, Missy?

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  10. Good reminders about change, Mindy.

    For me, I guess it depends on what kind of change is happening...was it my choice....did I have time to think and plan for it...or was it sudden and sad and is my life now upside down and sideways and I'm not even sure who I am anymore? I have learned in these last two years that I don't have to push myself to figure out answers. I can hang on to the Lord and let life unfold. I can be an observer for awhile...no action necessary...until it is needed. So...all that to say...I enjoy certain changes and actually anticipate something new...other changes it takes me a while to adjust!

    Thanks for these words this morning! Have a tea-lightful day! (Would love to be entered in the drawing...I agree...the cover is stunning).

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    1. Oh, I love that, Kathryn. Tea-lightful! It also reminds me that I need another cup. ;)

      Yes, the expected versus the unexpected. No one likes to be thrown for a loop, yet it seems things happen that way more often then not. I'm so glad I have God to hold onto, otherwise I'm not sure I'd make it.

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  11. Change is inevitable, and we should always have a teachable attitude to continue learning and improving. But self-publishing let's an author keep that title or the phrases she loves, instead of trying to change the author's voice. I once had an editor add one of her own characters into my story. There is such a thing as being too flexible, though, I admit that I tend towards the other extreme, not liking change much. But I am learning to take criticism better and keep improving my writing and marketing skills.

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    1. Lila, that would be one of those times when one would need to have a conversation with their editor. I'm sorry that happened to you. But it sounds like writing is helping you to grow and that's always a good thing.

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  12. I do not like change - big or small. I would love to go back to a time when things were simpler and the world seemed a kinder place.

    I don't know why (and as He says I may never know), but God has certainly brought plenty of change into my life over the last four years - things I could never have imagined. I know from past experience, it does make you stronger, but it sure does hurt going through it.

    rayorr[at]bellsouth[dot]net

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    1. Linda, simpler and kinder sounds wonderful to me. But then I have to remind myself that I was younger and more oblivious, too. Every generation has their struggles. Still, there's a lot to be said for those simpler times.

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  13. .
    "Without change there is no conflict, no growth, no interest, and no story."

    It's by resisting change that the sail drives the ship forward. If you go with the flow, you become flotsam and get washed away.

    There is always change. It's when change produces the unknown or causes us more work and inconvenience that we dislike it.

    Change is just opportunity waiting to be exploited.
    Grab it with both hands and ride it to success!

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    1. Interesting perspective, Vince. As always. The sail analogy is an interesting one. Makes me stop and think.

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  14. Mindy, this is a great post. Change is hard most of the time. Some change is good and those are fun times, but it is difficult when things change that are out of our control or not what we want.

    Please enter me in the drawing.

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  15. Mindy, thank you for this post. It is the best advice and I agree wholeheartedly. Change is hard but necessary and sometimes even wonderful. The editors and industry professionals are helping us to make our stories the best they can possibly be. I loved when you said, "Remember, if He calls us, He will equip us. We are never alone, especially when we follow His lead."

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    1. Sharee, those are words I have to remind myself of daily.

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  16. I have definitely learned through the years that change often isn't as bad as we think. My first book, I hated that I had to change the title. On my second, I was actually the one to suggest the change. It doesn't mean it's always easy, but it doesn't have to be as hard as we sometimes make it, either. The heroine in the book I am writing now hates change, but she's also having to go through it a lot as I teach her these lessons. ;-)

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    1. Ah, the joy of being an author and messing with other peoples' lives, right Amy? Sometimes it's fun to torture them. And, in the end, everyone learns a valuable lesson. ;)

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  17. Nothing moves as slowly or changes as quickly as publishing. It pays not to keep to tight a grasp on any idea or vision but be willing to adapt. Always be open to a new opportunity. You never know what might come out of it.

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  18. Mindy, I am the world's worst about change! Thanks for posting ways to help writers cope with change. Flexibility is a great tool to help with the professionalism writers need. (And I've finally figured out a way to leave comments and have them show up again!) Thanks for some new and positive ways to help me adapt in this ever changing industry.

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    1. Tanya, it's looks like we're going to have to limber you up. Yay for your comments showing up again!

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  19. How I handle change is usually dependent on what needs to change (or is changing). No pepperoni for my pizza? I can roll with it. Change a dirty diaper? Most definitely! Change my heart or attitude about people who have wronged me? Ummm...yeah. About that... Thanks for encouraging us to embrace change, no matter what it is. Lee-Ann

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    1. Yes, embracing change can be really difficult in those times, Lee-Ann.

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  20. I don't mind change. It's part of life.

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  21. I like to stay firmly in my comfort zone, so change is hard for me. I'm not a spur-of-the-moment type of person, either. I like to know what's coming up. Thanks for this thought-provoking post and the great advice.

    Throw my name in the hat for an ARC of your upcoming book. It sounds wonderful!

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    1. Winnie, spontaneity is difficult for lots of folks. If only life would cooperate.

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  22. Hi Mindy:

    I'm just fascinated by the cover art for "Reunited in the Rockies". Each time I see it I find it to be a truly inspired work of art.

    It's a painting that incorporates features that are the result of limitations found in photography. Notice how the flowers are blurred up front as if out of focus to a camera lens. A painter does not have such a limitation. Also note how the sunlight obscures the background. I have not noticed beams of sunlight obscuring the things behind the beams -- at least not to that extent. In a way it's magical.

    I look at it in wonder: Is this a photograph made to look like a painting or is it a painting made to look like a photograph. And why would anyone do either? Probably only another artist or photographer is going to notice this anyway.

    In any event, the artwork is inspired and if there are any awards for great cover art, this should be entered. I hope it gets posted often in the future...until your next book comes out!

    Vince

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